Welcome, from sol and Ms160!
This blog contains an enormous amount of material that has proved useful to other new kinksters over the years. But at the same time the blog has become hard to find your way around.
Here are a few tips:
If you have specific kinky interests / topics you want to find:
- Check out the titles in the BDSM For Beginners series (under "BDSM FOR BEGINNERS" in the "LABELS" section in the right hand column). You'll also find the BDSM For Beginners on a separate blog HERE. I recommend heading over there if you are finding this blog too difficult to get around.
- Use the "SEARCH" link in the right hand column, to look for blog posts on specific topics.
- Check out the "LABELS" in the right hand column, to look for blog posts and discussion of specific BDSM topics.
- Check out my blog lists on this blog's home page, to find bloggers with similar interests.
- Check out the "LABELS" in the right hand column, to see if any topics push your buttons.
- Scroll through the BLOG POST TITLES in the section in the right hand column titled WHAT's GONE BEFORE.
- Check out the titles in the BDSM For Beginners series (under "BDSM FOR BEGINNERS" in the "LABELS" section in the right hand column). You'll also find the BDSM For Beginners on a separate blog HERE.
- Check out my blog lists on this blog's home page. You'll find different lists for dominant writers, sub writers, blogs about D/s relationships (marriages, poly families etc), a list of kinky podcasts and finally a list of BDSM online resources.
MOST COMMON INFORMATION REQUESTS WE RECEIVE:
Where can we find a link explaining BDSM terminology?
Start with Wiki's BDSM Glossary :). You might also like to check out Wiki's BDSM Topics page. The latter is pretty basic, but it might give you the right terminology for kinks and fetishes that interest you, which you can then google.
When you decide you'd like a more comprehensive glossary check out the one on Franklin Veaux's site.
Looking for info about playing online?
- Check out the list of posts about playing online in the right column of the BDSM For Beginners blog. These include: How To Find An Online Play Partner, D/s Cam Play, How To Cope With Online Play Partner Disappearances,
Looking to network and meet friends online?
- I highly recommend you join FETLIFE. Fetlife is free to join. Unlike Collarme or ALT it's not a dating site, it's a real kinky community. Remember when you are creating your profile over there that it's different to those other sites ... you will make more friends on Fet if you change your profile from a personal ad, and simply write honestly about your kinky hopes.
Need info about finding an online or real time play partner or lifestyle partner?
At the point of giving up, re finding a lifestyle partner?
- Read these two posts by Axe of Unspeakable Axe : First: Why Are You Still Reading? Then: It Will All Work Out Eventually
Looking for info about moving into real time kink?
- Have a read of the Going Real Time posts in the BDSM For Beginners series. This includes posts on Finding Your Local Scene, Attending Your first Munch and Attending Your First Play Party
- Join FETLIFE and locate a geographic group near you that organizes munches. Fetlife is great for groups like this. I run one for the region where I live.
Just starting to play and want some practical ideas?
- Check out the list of posts about Just Starting To Play in the right column of the BDSM For Beginners blog. You'll find posts on everything from putting your first kinky toy box together to new, moderate and advanced BDSM techniques and tips.
Want to join my forum for new female dominants?
Want to ask me a question?
- Best way to reach me is via my Formspring account, or you can write to me privately via Fetlife.
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