Mistress160's Abode: BDSM EDUCATION

MS160's EDUCATIONAL
PROGRAMS

"Thank you! Having the opportunity to learn to play online in a private, safe environment was not only an important part of my growth as a Female Dominant, it was FUN!!" (E)

"I am in tears ... but tears of relief. You have explained [re subdrop / aftercare] so much of what im going through and i dont feel so isolated or insane." (w)

"well thought out, well written, and highly valuable ... the class had a profound impact on me and my self-perception ... your blending of sexual imagery with commands during the lessons was exquisite" (QL)

"this course has shown me that it is possible to do things i otherwise would have never done ... you will always have a place in my heart" (t)

Ms160 offers real time BDSM educational workshops, skill shares and retreats, as well as online educational programs open to all kinky orientations.

Both Ms160 and solipsist are educators and academics in their vanilla life, and their desire to provide knowledge for new kinksters has resulted in their being invited to present workshops and skill shares over the last few years in Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne (including Kinkfest in 2009 and The Gathering in 2010) and New Zealand. They are always happy to travel to work with your local BDSM community.

Ms160 and solipsist help MsDee when she needs a hand with Uber:learn in Sydney, and were part of the team that created The Gathering in Sydney in October 2010. They currently co present workshops for Satet in Brisbane and were both presenting at - and Ms160 was Presenter Co-ordinator for - Southern Exposure in New Zealand in April 2011, which was canceled due to the Christchurch earthquake.

Their workshops range from one / two hours to full day and weekend length intensives. They also offer private weekend couples' retreats at their D/s Retreat in Northern NSW.

Drop Ms160 a line via her Fetlife profile to discuss any of the following educational programs, or any educational ideas you might have that you'd like her to be involved with, or like to discuss with her.

REAL TIME SKILL SHARES /
WORKSHOPS

NEW:

ORGANIZING HIGH PROTOCOL EVENTS

CHEMICAL PLAY

21ST CENTURY BIRCHING

SECURING THE FAMILY JEWELS

PRACTICALITIES OF PLAY: D/S FOR NEW DOMINANTS

UNDER PRESSURE

AFTERCARE

(Mistress Satet's, Brisbane early 2011)
(Southern Exposure, New Zealand April 2011)

"Thanks for the great info on drop, both for tops and bottoms.

Its helped me and my exsub through a painful breakup, and

may have saved our friendship." (Unen)

"your site on emergency aftercare helped save my life" (Cat)

"thanx also to Mistress160 your workshop was very
informative and presented so well" (thebratisback)

"Mistress160 i still thank you to this day for your words
and articles .. they kept me alive. xx." (w)

Aftercare is one of the most important things you need to learn about BDSM. As Midori points out "the reality is that the presence or absence, timing, quality and sincerity of aftercare can make the difference between a fantastic scene and a miserable experience. It's as necessary as air or water; similarly vital, yet taken for granted until it goes missing or quality is degraded".

[Drawing on the experiences of over 100 kinksters] Mistress160 will discuss during this workshop:

• What terms like aftercare and "drop" (as in "sub drop" or "top drop") mean
• What "drop" feels like
• What aftercare consists of
• Working out your own aftercare needs ... we don't all need it!
• The importance of aftercare after cyber play
• Needing more aftercare than your Dom/me provides
• Top guilt
• Switches experiences with both types of 'drop'
• Putting together a personal aftercare kit

NOTE TO ORGANIZERS: This workshop can be split into individual strands, such as "Aftercare for submissives". "Aftercare for switches" Etc.

PRACTICALITIES OF PLAY: D/S FOR NEW DOMINANTS

(Southern Exposure, New Zealand April 2011)

"thank you thank you thank you for this one!" (evi)

"your Practicalities of Play workshops should be

compulsory for all new dominants" (Ed)

You are doing all the right things - watching and learning at play parties, reading lots, and practicing your flogging / caning / bondage skills. You don't quite feel ready to use those skills in a scene yet, but you have a sub ready and waiting... What to do?! In this workshop Mistress160 will provide you with basic practical information that will give you the confidence to organize and run your first scene. We'll talk about:

• Assembling a basic BDSM toy box (why a blindfold is a new dominant's best friend)
• Finding "pervertable" toys around your home, and fiendish uses for them
• Looking the part ... or not (dominant dress styles vs comfort)
• Basic D/s and power exchange techniques (and where to find more good resources to learn more)
• How to organize a short real time scene
• How to organize a short cyber play scene
• Simple play techniques useful in your first few scenes. For example, temperature play, figging, pegging, clamp play, orgasm control and denial, puppy play etc

• Working out your / your partner's aftercare needs (and where to find more info about aftercare)
• Finding more online resources for dominants

21ST CENTURY BIRCHING
(Mistress Satet's, Brisbane 2010)
(Southern Exposure, New Zealand April 2011)

"a most interesting and informative workshop" ... " (G)

Thank you so much for the birching workshop, lots of fun and info.

A walk amongst the trees will never be quite the same again" (ladytramp)

Birching is something we read about in 19th century erotica ... but what about today? Surely a "birch" is the ultimate green "pervertable"?! During this workshop with Mistress160 we'll:

• study the corporal punishment history of birching
• share some very hot scenes in 19th century erotica
• learn how to make a "birch"
• learn how to make a "birch" with non birch materials
• explore techniques for applying it
• discuss aftercare requirements

Suitable for all kinksters, from new to experienced players. You'll get to take home your own birch, with some great ideas for how to use it...

NOTE TO ORGANIZERS: This workshop can either be run as a straight discussion or as a practical workshop where each person gets to take home an implement. For the practical workshop please add $5 to your usual workshop fee to cover materials (dried twigs, string, tape, cotton cord, velvet ribbon etc) for each person. The presenter will provide these, along with workshop notes.

NOTE TO INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZERS: Please discuss with Ms160 re where local birch or dried birch / willow and other items can be sourced (do you have an IKEA nearby?)

BDSM HUNTING

(Mistress Satet's, Brisbane 2011)

The idea of sub hunting is extremely popular on various kinky sites and catches the imagination of many kinksters. The problem is turning those fantasies into a reality that is safe, sane and consensual. During this two hour workshop Mistress160 will explore:

• why the mindset of the prey determines the type of hunt
• how to organize a hunt
• location, location ...
• "in the wild" hunts vs urban hunts
• pursuit and capture / take down techniques
• paintball and other styles of hunt
• post hunt aftercare

SECURING THE FAMILY JEWELS

(Southern Exposure, New Zealand April 2011)

CBT. Chastity. Orgasm control and denial. These are all ways to secure and control your submissive. Mistress160 and solipsist will discuss their own experiences of chastity play and orgasm control, and reveal some practical ways you can add these extremely enjoyable games to your kinky repertoire. Some of the topics we'll explore:

• chastity control without a device
• pros and cons of different chastity devices and tips re how to modify them
•assembling a CBT oriented toy box, plus CBT "pervertables"
• lots of fiendish ideas ... plus why cock rings are so useful
• a little ball kicking for beginners
• ruined orgasms
• cock milking

DOWN THE 'P' HOLE
(Southern Exposure, New Zealand April 2011)

The urethra is a playground of delicious sensation. In this two hour workshop Ms160 and solipsist will help you overcome your inhibitions and go down the "p" hole to explore the forbidden pleasures to be found within. They'll discuss and demonstrate:

• urethral health and safety play issues
• what's the best sounding equipment to start, best lubes etc
• sounding "how to" demo
• urethral q tip sensation play demo
• chemical play options
• aftercare

THE FINE ART OF HOSTING FEMDOM TEA PARTIES

The idea of hosting a Femdom Tea Party appeals to many female dominants. But how do you actually go about it? In this two hour workshop Mistress160 will reveal:

• why there is no wrong way to hold a Femdom tea party / why the hostess is always right
• how to train and select servers
• how to choose a theme (CFNM or otherwise)
• menus and budgets
• entertainments and punishments
• Femdom protocols
NOTE TO ORGANIZERS: Ms160 also runs server training classes for boys. Please see the full day / weekend courses section below for Ms160's Femdom Tea Party Day, where server training, hostess training and an actual tea party take place on one day.

QUILLING

Quilling is a BDSM temporary piercing technique that utilizes animal quills. The most common of these are from porcupines, but other animals may provide interesting possibilities. Mistress160 discusses techniques and fiendish play ideas, safety during play … and reveals the secrets of her own quill box!

EVERYTHING YOU WANTED TO KNOW
ABOUT STRAP ON PLAY BUT WERE AFRAID TO ASK
(Kinkfest 2009)

"awesome (and comprehensive) ...

on the selection and use of a strap-on"

Caitlain's Corner

"I attribute your [workshop] on strap-on play to one of our greatest
"first time" experiences - we both definitely owe you thanks!" (DD)

Whether for gender play, prosthetic purposes or expressing kinky desires, a strap-on adds serious fun to sexual and D/s relationships. In this two hour workshop Mistress160 will discuss:

• What exactly is a strap-on?
• How do I select one?
• What types of harness / dildos are there?
• What about strap-ons for larger women?
• What about strap-ons for men?
• Novelty styles of strap-on
• How do I actually use the damn thing???!

CROSS DRESSING AND FORCED FEMINIZATION
(The Gathering 2010)

Crave stockings, corsetry, sexy femme clothing? Regardless of biological gender, feminine apparel can be tantalizing. From Forced Feminization to Cross dressing, to Transvestisism, bringing out your feminine side can be challenging, and oh so rewarding. In this workshop Ms160 and solipsist will discuss:

• the practical aspects of Cross dressing, some ideas on how to begin
• how and where to source your pieces
• how to use this fetish in kinky play
• the practical aspects of Forced Feminization
• how FF can be used in a D/s relationship
• M160 and sol's "24/7 Bra Experiment"

A detailed References and Online Resources list researched by Ms160 will also be provided to all attendees.

RESTRAINT WITHOUT ROPE
(The Gathering 2010)

Carabiners ... plastic wrap .... self adhesive bandages ... leather harnesses / straps ... hand cuffs .... silk scarves ... chains ... straight jackets ... the list is endless....

Bondage is one of the hottest elements of BDSM. However many new kinksters feel a bit intimidated by rope. Those skills will come in time, don't worry. But for now, while you are just starting out, Mistress160 will reveal all sorts of non rope forms of restraint that will make restraining your play partner a breeze. And that includes a play partner three times your size!

UNDER PRESSURE

OK, first question, students: why do we like playing with clamps?

Because clamping is an amazing and easy form of sensation play that you really want to add to your BDSM repertoire. Clamps create erotic sensations by cutting off circulation.

In this workshop Ms160 will show you why clamps are a good technique for beginners. You'll learn how your partner's body responds to clamping, and how to make clamp play as mild or painful as you desire. And you might be surprised by some of the clamps we discuss in this workshop - in fact, you will probably have most of the "toys" Ms160 will mention at home: clothes pegs (or clothes pins), bamboo skewers, a ball of string, rubber bands, etc... see, we told you it was easy!

THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING - CHEMICAL PLAY

"Chemical Play leaves a little gift that

keeps on giving after the session is over"

Vince

Chemical play according to Wiki is "the use of balms and ointments such as Bengay, Icy Hot, Biofreeze, etc" (here in Australia we use Dencorub) to create sensations on a submissive's body during a BDSM scene.

But it's more than that. In this workshop we are going to explore how this kind of sensation play can utilize a wide range of intense preparations / mild irritants, everything from menthol to toothpaste to wintergreen oil. We are also going to look at spices like cinnamon, eucalyptus, peppermint, chili peppers and ginger - spice play!! And because this type of play interacts with other sorts of play - and because chemical play often gets called different things - we are going to be touching on other topics such as Food Play, Irritant play, Abrasion play, etc.

ORGANIZING HIGH PROTOCOL EVENTS

High Protocol events are making a return to the Australian scene. However most of us find the term "High Protocol" confronting, challenging and confusing.
When we demystify "High Protocol", a new world of BDSM events opens up to us as we explore historical + contemporary resources before creating the personalized "House Rules" that will govern our High Protocol events.
This relaxed and enjoyable workshop is not only for those wanting to host a High Protocol event. It is for those interesting in attending such events, as well as anyone interested in formal service.
In this three workshop / skill share, we'll explore:

separating fantasy from reality : what you want from your own House Rules + protocols

defining low / high protocols: what works for you personally

useful protocol sources: Leather / Gorean / Femdom / Story of O / "Old European Houses" etc: what translates into real time, what doesn't

different types of high protocol events: formal dinners / tea parties / theme play parties etc

useful historical + contemporary service publications

vanilla historical TV programs + films: what's good to incorporate, what's not

helpful porn

server issues: how to find servers that enhance your event /formal service training / punishments / owner issues

event practicalities: budgets / lead times / program / guest numbers / invitations / catering / venues / clean ups / etc

listening to others: what we can learn from other people's high protocol events: what worked, what didn't

your House Rules draft: suggested layouts, topics etc

CYBER KINK

(Kinkfest 2009)

"Thank you! Having the opportunity to learn

to play online in a private, safe environment

was not only an important part of my growth

as a Female Dominant, it was FUN!!" (E)

Finding your way around kinky cyber space can be a bit hit or miss. It's rare to find someone willing to show you around and actually teach you how to play. But today you are in luck! In this two hour workshop Mistress160 will help you explore the realms of cyber kink and equip you with the skills and confidence to become an active player in forums and chatrooms. We'll discuss:

• where to find online kinky / fetish communities
• practical tips for creating online profiles
• practical hints for finding a partner online (and avoiding online predators)
• chatroom etiquette
• how to organize a short D/s cam play scene
• cyber aftercare
• places where you can go online for further information

NOTE TO ORGANIZERS: a high speed internet connection is required, and it helps if attendees have their own laptops.

WEEKEND COURSES:

BDSM FOR BEGINNERS DAY / WEEKEND

A day / weekend of workshops with Mistress160 and friends, which conclude with a small play party, giving attendees a chance to put what they've learned into practice. The day / weekend will cover:

About you (working out your kinky orientation / what you're looking for in the scene etc)

Moving into the Scene (how to find your local scene / attending munches / play party etiquette / what to wear etc)

Negotiating / safewords

Practicalities of play (how to run a scene / basic play techniques for new players / scene safety / D/s )

Drop and Aftercare issues (what do these terms mean / working out your own aftercare requirements)

Reading List

BDSM AND HEALTH

A weekend of workshops and round table discussions related to BDSM and health issues. Suggested topics:

• BDSM and Mental Health Issues (general round table)
• Playing with Disabilities
• Medications and BDSM (ie, how do medications effect play?)
• Types of play you might need to avoid (for example, watersports)
• BiPolar and BDSM
• ADD and BDSM
• BDSM and Sexual Health

FEMDOM TEA PARTY DAY

This is a full day event that involves all parties interesting in participating, hosting and attending a Femdom tea party.

Male servers are required to attend the whole day.
Dommes attend during the afternoon.
NOTE: As this is an educational event as well as a tea party, numbers MUST be kept low for this event to be a success. A maximum of 7 servers and 10 "hostesses".

The day is split into three parts:.

10am to 12.00: Male server training
(basic self presentation skills / basic kitchen skills / basic service and femdom protocol training / basic foot massage skills / separating your fantasies from a hostess's reality / is your hostess always right?)

1 pm - 2.30pm: Femdom Tea Party Hostess skills
(female dominants only)
(planning a femdom tea party / selecting servers / high protocol or not / possible themes / what goes wrong most often and how you can avoid it)

From 2.45pm to 5pm a formal Femdom tea party will be held for the "hostesses", at which the boys trained in the morning will serve.

NOTE TO ORGANIZERS:

Although Ms160 is the educator for the day, the event organizer is the "hostess" for this event. Ms160 is happy to work with the organizer to organize the tea party, pick a theme (suggest either CFNM or "French maid" / sissy), discuss catering, etc.

The cost of this event depends on whether the event is home catered or not. Asking attendees to bring a plate cuts costs and a simple workshop fee can be charged, otherwise the organizer needs to make a budget and charge appropriately.

ONLINE TRAINING
COURSES

"well thought out, well written, and highly valuable ...

the class had a profound impact on me and my self-perception ...

your blending of sexual imagery with

commands during the lessons was exquisite" (QL)

"this course has shown me that it is possible to do things

i otherwise would have never done ...

you will always have a place in my heart" (t)

Online courses are run in private on Ms160's Student Forum, which also features private chatrooms for interactive study, socializing and cyber play. They last between two (for the "taste of" courses) and six weeks.

If these online educational programs are of interest, for further course details drop Ms160 a line via her Fetlife profile. You may also apply to join Ms160's Student Forum where you can chat with former students about Ms160's courses and take part in the general discussions.