Formspring question - your D/s rituals + daily life

You wrote in that last post about a ritual you do with sol but I can't find much on the topic on your blog. Could you tell me more about what you do, and also give an example of a single day. This would help my Mistress who is finding it hard to make it w

Thank you to the person who wrote the question above on Formspring. I'm not sure how much of your message I lost due to Formspring's text limit, but I think I get the general idea. You are asking:

1) why we don't write much about our daily rituals
2) whether we can write a post covering 24 hours that gives an example of how those rituals / rules impact on our daily life

If I've got that wrong, drop me another line and we'll sort it our further.

Let's look a question 1 first.

You are absolutely spot on asking this question.  I've written quite a lot about rituals / protocols / rules and our daily life regarding them over the years, but I've just not posted most of it.  Those posts are all sitting in my drafts box. Including an entire BDSM For Beginners series of several long posts on rules, rituals and protocols that I researched and wrote when I realized that sol and I also needed these things for added structure in our D/s relationship.

Why didn't I publish them?  The thing is, I'm not sure the world needs more posts about D/s protocols or rituals because those people who actually live D/s lifestyles and have posted on this have done a great job.

However I said that about publishing my Aftercare series and my How To Contact / Find a Dominant series - and you all proved me wrong with your comments, pointing out that they did add something to what was there, if only because of my boring academic habit of collating documentation on what ever the topic is.

So, perhaps I should publish these posts. If I published them on the original time line that I wrote them, then the BDSM For Beginners Rituals and Protocols series would appear about eighteen months or so ago, with a series of posts following over the next few months explaining how our new rituals and rules were going.  Or not lol. Whatever, it might help re the info you seek.

As to question 2:

Certainly I could post a day of our life but there are two things that concern me about doing that:

a) it places what we do out of context
b) it encourages people putting their own D/s rules and rituals together to copy what we do without knowing the why of it, and in regard to this subject the why of it - the need to construct personalized rules and rituals, not copy what you've read elsewhere -is extremely important

What would provide context? Publishing all those draft posts lol.

Okay. I hear you. Meanwhile - re the missing part of your message - if I can help with anything more specific, please get back in touch. If you write to me over at Fetlife it's free to join, private and no word limit :)