Photo swiped from The Heron ClanT of The Heron Clan puts up a "Safety Post" once a year or so. Her latest post begins:
"Yes, it has been about a year since my last "Safety Post". And many of you have heard my tale, but there are newbies lurking out there that need to be careful, too.Safety is extremely important in the scene. To be honest although it's covered in topics like my Going Real Time Series (Moving into the Lifestyle) series, I don't talk about safety enough, either here or over on my BDSM For Beginners blog.
"About 14-ish years ago I thought I was invincible. I could play with strangers and nobody would cause me harm unless I asked for it. Boy, was I wrong!
"I "met" the "Dom of my Dreams" online. We chatted alot and of course we were practically "soul-mates"...because I was being stupid and believed all the lies. Finally we planned to meet. He came to town and got a motel room and I got all gussied up and blindly went off to meet my future MONSTER.
"He met me at the door with a gun..."
So I 200% recommend you head over to The Heron Clan to read the rest of T's post. T not only discusses what happened that night, she explains what's required regarding creating your own personal Safe Call / Silent Alarm system, for when you are meeting a stranger for play. And as T reminds us, while this is important for any "newbies lurking out there" its also important as a refresher for more experienced players. As T concludes:
"play safe. Take care of each other"
REFERENCES AND ONLINE RESOURCES:
T at The Heron Clan: "Safety First People!"
WANT TO LEARN MORE?
altsubmission - The Importance of a safety net
Domsub - Safe Call Refresher
elle finn - 10 Things I wish I'd known about
LunaKM - 5 Things to Give your safe Call Person
LunaKM - First Meetings Done Safely
LunaKM - Identifying Fake Dominants and Posers
Ms160 - Going Real Time Series (Moving into the Lifestyle)
Postat Safety First - Fun Second Safety When Meeting For The First Time
Powererotics BDSM Safety
screamer Online / offline BDSM Safety
Raven Shadowborne - Safe call and safe words
SirBamm! - Safe call guide and outline
Twist of Wyrd BDSM Safety - First Time Meetings
Wiki - BDSM - Safety
Thank you:
T and the Heron Clan, for reminding me
I need to post more on this topic
Photo:
Photo swiped from
The Heron Clan
T and the Heron Clan, for reminding me
I need to post more on this topic
Photo:
Photo swiped from
The Heron Clan
5 comments:
Mistress160...always a timely reminder...it is never something that should be 'left to chance'. T post was very thought provoking. I still have the "post it note" I wrote my owners car reg on, as I stuck it on the inside of my boot the very first time I went in his car, even though this was not the first time we had met. He was the one who reminded me about the time limit on my safe call. He was also the one who talked to me about hand prints on a car, texting the car reg to my own computer, and all sorts of other things. Sounds a bit CSI, but all good advice. Thanks for the reminder.
HSxx
And... maybe we should make it a blog-circle project so that people who read anywhere around our neighborhood will get the message... Like "Love our Lurkers," only more about "Love Ourselves" -- enough to take care of ourselves and one another.
hugs and thanks for the nod,
swan
@HS, it's a good reminder, that postal note ... and I'm glad he reminded you about your time limit *grin*
@swan, that's an extremely good idea. I wonder how we could make that happen? Perhaps we should talk to Bonnie, who got the Love Our Lurkers day off the ground?
Well, Bonnie's got the kind of reach to spread the word... If she would take it on, I'm sure it would spread and lots of people would hear the message.
swan
@swan, poor Bonnie .... more work! *evil grin*. But you are right, she has the reach.
Okay, then, shall we each write to her?! I've been trying to think of a title for the project, but I rather like the one you mentioned :)
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