Thursday, July 30, 2009

Newbie Dominants - Practicalities of Play series

xposted from BDSM For Beginner's blog 13 June 2009


Thank you so much to all the readers who have been in touch over the "Newbie Dominants - Practicalities of Play" series, since I put out the call a couple of months ago. I've taken all your comments and ideas on board and will start publishing the series soon. It's been great to see how many new dominants, especially female dominants, are reading Mistress160's Abode and the BDSM for Beginners blog, and I'm really pleased to have nearly finalized this series for you :).

This Newbie Dominant - Practicalities of Play series leads on in part from the Going Real Time series. It covers a tricky period of transition we all experience: you are doing all the right things - watching and learning at play parties, reading lots, and practicing your flogging / caning / bondage skills. You don't quite feel ready to use those skills in a scene yet, but you have a sub ready and waiting... What to do?!

In this series of posts I'll provide you with basic practical information that will give you the confidence to organize your first scene, be in an online scene, a real time scene in the privacy of your home ... or your first scene in public. Here's some of the things we'll discuss:
  • Assembling a basic BDSM toy box
  • Finding "pervertable" toys around your home, and fiendish uses for them
  • Looking the part ... or not (dominant dress styles)
  • How to organize a cyber play scene and play online
  • How to organize a real time scene in private
  • How to organize a real time scene at a play party
  • Simple types of play useful in your first few scenes: queening / figging / pegging / CBT / clamp play / T&D / puppy play etc
  • Learning more advanced play techniques
  • Looking out for "drop" / top guilt, and working out your / your partner's aftercare needs
  • Finding more online resources for dominants
I'll be running a two hour real time "Practical play tips for new dominants" workshop on this subject, as well as as a cyber course.

NOTE: Aug 2009: I've had to remove these posts due to an intellectual property dispute (someone was stealing their content) so drop me a line privately or leave a comment below if you'd like to read the posts and I'll send them to you)

Thursday, July 23, 2009

BDSM For Beginners - Saline Infusion / Inflation Play

bratty's saline infused balls

This post is about Edgeplay

Please don't read it if you are not
interested in learning about:
saline infusions , scrotal infusions,
and medical play


"Ms160 whenever we go to play parties
these days we see medical injection / infusion scenes ...
they are pretty intense for newbies to watch.
Can you tell us about them?"
Anon.

"infusion is wonderful"
Anita-
(private correspondence to Ms160)



The regular reader of this blog who wrote the top quote in red above is quite right. Infusion scenes have become increasingly popular amongst the kinky community.

Scenes often occur at parties - in fact at a recent party I assisted at two scrotal infusion scenes. "Body modification - saline injection" now features on many BDSM checklists. You'll find infusion techniques turning up in books (there were labia and scrotal infusion scenes in Warren Ellis' book "Crooked Little Vein" ... "probably the scene I receive most email about", writes Ellis) and educational workshops (like Marc Paquet-Decker's "Scrotal Infusions (saline)"). I've also noticed several professional Dominants adding "saline infusions / injections" to their play specialty lists - Sydney based Miss Fleur de Lys recently blogged about an evening with a Doctor friend where the topic was 'How to Win Friends and Influence People Using Saline Injections': "very handy for those with a medical fetish and/or lovers of CBT and pussy play. I am very excited to have learned this new skill, it's been on my list of things to do forever!"

So saline infusions are definitely becoming more common. However, the regular reader I quote above is also right in saying that watching such scenes can be intense and confronting for new kinksters. That's understandable. This type of play is definitely edgeplay and definitely for advanced players. But it might make you feel better to read the quote below, from Donna's Life, the Universe and Donna blog, where an experienced kinkster comes face to face with her first labia saline injection scene:

"I am also rather amused to find that there’s still some things in kink that make me go “oh my god, ew! are you kidding me? people do that for FUN?” I was under the impression that even if I haven’t tried “everything” I had at least been exposed to just about everything. Nope! This one was new: Labia saline injections. The concept seems safe enough (the body will just absorb the saline pretty quickly, but leaves things … er, rather painful for a while afterward) but holy shit, NO FREAKING WAY is anything like that going near my hoohaw.

"Your kink ain’t my kink but your kink’s okay… over there. I lie, actually — I was totally fascinated to the point of wanting to apologize to the poor girl getting salined up for staring at her hoohaw for a good ten minutes straight, but seriously! THINGS ARE BEING INJECTED IN THERE, how could I NOT stare? Crazy. I am so not doing that. Hell, I won’t even get pierced down there…"

So you see, it's not just newbies who react a bit when they encounter these scenes *grin*.

You will find a lot of discussion online about how dangerous saline infusions can be and how no-one should do it. And you should read some of those discussions. But if as a newbie, the topic interests you - and let's be honest, it DOES interest a lot of men in particular - you'll find this post and it's References / Online Resources list, helpful.


WHAT IS INFUSION PLAY?

This type of medical play - which is also sometimes called inflation play - is a temporary form of body modification where usually saline (a sterile mixture of pure salt and water - not to be confused with contact lens saline) is injected into the scrotum, labia or breasts. Sometimes other compounds are used for scrotal infusions, we will talk about that later.

The result is increased sensation and swelling. In the case of scrotal infusions we are talking serious swellings: "How big? Think softball, grapefruit, and, in one scene I saw, cantaloupe". Because saline is compatible with the body, the swelling decreases over several hours or days as the saline is absorbed by the tissues.

If this interests you, you might also like to google the following related terms: Saline Injection; Saline Injection Temporary Breast Enlargement; Saline Labial Injections; Scrotal Infusion; Catheter Play

WHY DO IT?

"People who want to combine "saline" and "scrotum"
by means of an "injection" should feel free to replace
"saline"
with "sulfuric acid"... such persons should
probably not
reproduce, nor be allowed within
1000 feet of a school or playground"

Ellison on a bondage.com thread

As Fleur de Lys observed, it's popular amongst kinksters with a "medical fetish and/or lovers of CBT and pussy play" as well as kinksters interested in inflation, and also ball stretching and pumping.

The "why do it?" question is often asked on forums where this type of play is discussed as too dangerous or just ridiculed. Not so much the saline breast injection or the medical play discussion threads, these often feature excellent responses. It's primarily the people who ask questions about scrotal infusions who come under attack.

I remember one poor bastard on bondage.com was ridiculed for five entire pages before the moderator shut the thread, just for asking in a newbie arrogant manner for information so he could attempt a scrotal infusion safely. Negative responses like "normal sized balls are good enough too. just a thought" are common on these threads. Worse, in one case on this particular thread one poster suggested the OP "try replacing the saline with air, and your balls with a major artery or vein. Its really kinky". That one comment was his entire post. It would probably have killed the OP if he had taken this advice.

Smart flippant remarks are all very well but on an open forum where a newbie with little experience asks for help, this kind of hostile, sarcastic and potentially lethal response is beyond appalling. So why are there so many threads like this?

In part because I think this kink is more misunderstood than most. Take the "your balls are fine the size they are" type response. Here's another from that same thread, where one poster did some "research" on scrotal infusion sites and found, in response to the "why do it" question that "the patient person felt as though his scrotum was too small somehow. I suppose it's the same type of mentality that makes some women get outrageously large breast implants". Note that: "patient person", rather than accepting that those interested in scrotal infusions are kinksters too.

Sure in some cases it might be the same mentality. But body modification fetishes focused on enlarging or stretching the scrotum (both permanently and temporarily) have been around a very long time, and are widely accepted. Genesis P. Orridge talked about someone who stretched his scrotum to his knees in Modern Primitives. Certainly someone interested in ball stretching / pumping would find scrotal infusions a turn on.

But there are other reasons for doing infusion play. The main one is because it's an intense form of sensation play. Let me paraphrase Anita- from Fetlife here, because I think she puts it best.

From the top's point of view there is a tremendous feeling of power and control, of temporarily changing the shape of your play partner. I can verify this feeling, in the scenes I did with bratty and cowboy - I really enjoyed the psychological aspects of playing a role in altering my friends' bodies, creating a situation that placed them in a constant state of genital awareness. You can also have amazing fun playing with the soft, heavy, enlarged body parts, which are incredibly sensitive.

From the bottom's point of view, Anita- makes these points:
  • Saline infusion involves extreme submission - to trust and give your body to the Top for modification (on the other hand saline infusion is a temporary body modification, you don’t have to commit long term changes)
  • Saline infusion has a tremendous humiliation factor
  • Saline infusion is highly erotic
  • Saline infusion provides intense sensations—big heavy balls pulling downward, big bouncy breasts, tight skin makes everything more sensitive, fun to play with!
  • Saline infusion is a form of self bondage, being held hostage by your own body
With scrotal infusion there is also the psychological aspect of some men who enjoy the weight and pressure on their balls (as this puppy play kinkster noted "It seems odd but when you're on all four paws, having a big heavy set of puppy balls swinging against your legs, it really puts you into the puppy mindset"), while others get off on the look of having really big balls.


HOW DO YOU DO IT?

"please, please, please learn it from a medical professional.
This is one of the things where making things as close
to
sterile as possible makes a huge difference"
From a tribe medplay thread

"Some people would do anything to win a Darwin Award"
Fukurerubber,
Body Inflation Forum

You do it very fucking carefully.

As I've already mentioned, you will find a million posts online telling you its dangerous and to leave scrotal infusion in particular, well alone. And you will also find horror stories of where things went wrong. However a great many of the horror stories are written by men - or by doctors ( see A Complication of an Unusual Sexual Practice by Jeffrey A. Summers, MD 2003) - who tried to inflate their own scrotum. Like this idiot Michael:
"I was very stupid and very lucky years ago when I had a very strong desire to inflate my scrotum. I cut a slit in my scrotum skin and used a bike pump needle used for airing up baskets balls,etc and rubber tubbing and ran distilled water into it and into my scrotum. Ouch… It ran in too fast and caused such pain I was sweating awhole lot. my scrotum swelled some from the water. I paniced some and squeezed my sac trying to squeeze the water out of the cut slit. All I know after placing a bandaid over the slit I went to sleep. Never tried it again. Learned my lesson. Was very lucky I did not do any damage to my reproductive system and did not get any infections"
What did he learn from this experience:
"Never try anything that you do not know much about. Study and ask lots of questions from experienced people that have done what your interested in trying".
Wise wise words, those. You might like to read them again!

The trick to this particular play is to have the infusion done by either a medical professional, or be trained yourself by a medical professional, like Fleur de Lys:
"[The Doctor] went through all the safety aspects while I listened attentively and took notes and asked questions. Then it was time to try it. She supervised as I injected 5ml of saline into each of my labia. The results really were instant and interesting, and my body absorbed the saline after an hour or so. I'm a big believer in testing out new things on myself first so I know how it feels and how to apply it"
Your last option is to be trained by someone who has been trained in this specific technique, but I'd prefer to get my training direct from the medical professional. Dr Dick of Dr Dick's Sex Advice column backs this up in his own description of doing a scrotal infusion, where mid way he comments:
"The infusion bag needs to be hung approximately three and a half feet, or one meter, higher than his nuts. You’ll need to know how to set up the infusion apparatus and bleed the infusion tube of air. If you don’t know how to do this, then you are in over your head. Don’t attempt this on your own."
I can certainly confirm that with someone experienced or with medical background in charge, infusion scenes become fascinating to watch as well as take part in. I love asking kinksters who do infusions their tips and secrets. Emma writes:

"injecting in four quadrants of the breast and through the nipple can be quite stimulating and with care more than 500ml can be injected into each breast ... it's almost impossible to fully 'rope a male breast as there simply isn't enough tissue there but above and below then cinching the two ropes in will help especially immediately after pumping. the fluid will be retained a little longer if the ropes are done effectively"

Here are some of Anita's tips:

"infusion for scrotal sac and breasts--slow and easy, a nice slow expansion that doesn't hurt the person too much.

"injection for labia--fast and painful, but necessary because the labia is very porous and the saline will reabsorb too quickly with an infusion. I hate doing labial injections however because I hate hurting women. But I will if they insist.

"don't do injections for breasts and sacs, you wind up with many holes and injection sites, lumpy bumpy odd shaped body parts, ick--infusion is wonderful (smiles)"


WHAT DOES IT FEEL LIKE?


Here is one man's saline scrotal infusion story:
"I've had this done twice so far. Once with 500cc and the second time with a full litre. From my point of view it was partly curiosity to 'see what it felt like' and partly the submissive side of me wanting to give someone control to perform a possibly uncomfortable and certainly potentially dangerous procedure on a particularly sensitive part of my anatomy.

"What was it like? Very interesting and a little nerve racking once I was in position and waiting for the needle. As usual the sensation was less uncomfortable than I had anticipated and the infusion itself was almost totally free of sensation, apart from the tightening sensation as my scrotum started to swell.

"It was amazing to have all that weight swinging between my legs for a day or so. The first infusion took about 36 hours to be completely reabsorbed and the larger infusion was gone in two days.

"Would I have it done again? You bet I will"

Re breast / labia infusions, Kinkybitch1922 writes:

"For what it's worth, I've been injecting/having my breasts/labia injected with large amounts of saline for several years now with no ill affects. The most I've ever had in one boob was 720ml, more felt a bit "too much" pressure and weight wise"

fembottom49 writes:

"I was a demo bottom for a saline injection workshop recently. The injections were in the inner labia and clit hood. They were very stingy going in, I mean REALLY stingy but felt great afterwards. Increased sensitivity to any light touch. The demonstrator did one injection in the clit hood and two each in the labia. She specifically did not recommend breast injection because she said that they tend to make the breasts lose their shape and firmness. Some may disagree and I don't really know from personal experience.

"She also did a scrotum injection which was done with an IV line, and one of the bottoms got huge....like large grapefruit size. He seemed pretty pleased with how it felt..."

WHAT ABOUT USING
NON SALINE INFUSERS?



A quick glance at bzine's pages on this subject show a variety of non saline materials used for scrotal infusion, from air to KY jelly. Probably the most successful non saline substance is argon gas. One practitioner, BME founder Shannon, notes:
"normally in gaseous inflations CO2 or O2 is used, or sometimes just air, but that feels terrible when your body absorbs it for most people). Inflations like this are fascinating to watch (or do) because they’re just so fast in comparison to saline inflation — start to finish times are measured in seconds and minutes rather than hours."
You can see one of his photos of argon gas inflation above. You'll find some Nitrous Oxide inflation photos here, and you can read about a first Nitrous Oxide scrotal inflation here.


CAN I TRY INFUSION BY MYSELF?


Some men do. In fact you can even buy online kits for self scrotal inflation. And find advise online on how to proceed. But guess what, I'm not going to go there. There are plenty of kinksters with experience willing to help you, if you desire to proceed.


EXAMPLES OF THE TYPE OF INFUSION
SCENE YOU MIGHT SEE AT PLAY PARTIES


I'm now going to write about a couple of scrotal infusion scenes where I assisted, to give you an idea of what the scenes are like, and how the procedures occur. This way, when you see infusion scenes at parties you'll know what's happening and they won't appear so confronting.

The first scene will also give you an idea of the kind of scene you'd experience yourself, if you want to try a scrotal infusion.


INFUSION SCENE
WHERE MS160 ASSISTED:
RASTAS AND BRATTY

This scene was to celebrate Kittens-bratty-one's 50th birthday (it was a terrific party ... you can read more here). His owner MistressKitten had organized his first scrotal infusion as a gift. However in other cases where the sub is less well known to the dominant, Anita- suggests a few things to keep in mind prior to play:

  • Know your “victim”: How does his/her anatomy measure up?
  • Any Health issues —blood pressure, edema, diabetes, back problems, allergies to iodine or latex?
  • Any emotional issues —fear of needles, ready to be in saline bondage for over 24 hours, what is he/she looking for?
Rastas was the First Aid Officer the night of Bratty's birthday party, and performed Bratty's infusion. I was Dungeon Monitor for the night, and assisted in a minor capacity. As it was my first scrotal infusion Rastas kindly talked me through the procedure.

We placed Bratty on a medical gurney in a leather straight jacket. This left his legs and genitals bare. Alcohol wipes, latex gloves, bandaids, medical tape and a sharps container were placed between his legs.

While we snapped on latex gloves, Rastas explained how the saline solution had required heating to around body temperature. Saline solution being a gravity fed system, he hung the bag / drip tubing etc on an IV stand:


Some saline had already been squeezed into the vial - it is vital no air or air bubbles remain in the drip tubing. A small area of bratty's ballsac was wiped with an alcohol swip. Then Rastas inserted the catheter needle into the scrotal cavity:


The danger here is hitting a testicle. As one kinky instruction manual puts it "Unusual sensation if you hit the testicle itself….sort of OUCH…..ride the wave and enjoy extreme needle play".

The needle was then removed, leaving the teflon sheath in Bratty's sac. I handed Rastas the medical tape and he taped the tubing down so that it didn’t pull out or kink up. He connected the drip tubing from the saline bag to the catheter sheath, then adjusted the clamping device, allowing an even drip to begin to flow in the vial. Bratty felt tingling as the saline began to enter his scrotum.

As it was Bratty's first time Rastas only infused 500ml. Here is MistressKitten measuring the impressive result:


A litre next time, Rastas told Bratty!

It took about 20 minutes for the liquid to slowly drip it's way into Bratty. During the wait Rastas told me he prefers infusions to injections because the latter can end up with a lumpy effect. We also discussed the largest scrotal and breast infusions we'd seen.

When the 500ml was in, Rastas disconnected the saline bag and withdrew the catheter sheath, disposing of it in the sharps container. There was only a tiny spot of blood:


Bratty was pretty amazed with the result. Here Mistress Kitten wishes him Happy Birthday:


Here he is taking his first walk:


And finally here is my favorite photo of the scene, which I took when Rastas held a torch to Bratty's balls:


Everything went perfectly with Bratty's first saline scrotal infusion, and if this is something you want to try you could not have had a better experience. However Anita- provides a list of things that might go wrong, and what to do:

What can go wrong:

  • Hitting the testes with the needle--no excuse for this since you insert between the testes.
  • Victim gets faint or lightheaded
  • scrotal cellulitis-- If you make sure that you use aseptic technique, keep the needle/saline sterile, then this should not happen. But if it does, then it is easily treated with antibiotics.
  • Bruising, sweating--this may happen based upon the fragility of the skin of the person.
  • Leaking--use liquid bandage (or a dot of superglue) to seal the hole
  • catheter kinks up--this can happen if you are not careful to keep the person still
  • catheter breaks off--very, very unlikely

What to do make it feel better:

make sure the saline is VERY warm, almost hot; put a hot cloth on the infusion area and replace it when it gets cool; distract the victim to pass the time pleasantly.

Thank you to Rastas, Mistress Kitten and Bratty for allowing me to assist and write about the scene :) (sorry it's taken so long to publish the damn article, I asked permission way back at Bratty's party LOL)

The next infusion scene I assisted with was a scrotal infusion by injection:

SALINE INJECTION SCENE
WHERE MS160 ASSISTED:

DEVILWOMAN, ED AND COWBOY



This scene occurred at the same party. The players were ED, an experienced Dom I am just getting to know, and Devilwoman and Cowboy, my favorite extreme play partners :). It's always an honour to play with these guys. You can read about other scenes I have done with Devilwoman and Cowboy, and about this scene in detail, on my Edgeplay blog (if you want access to this blog, drop me a line below or via Fetlife).

Unlike Bratty, who was a scrotum infusion virgin, Cowboy had experienced lots of infusion play. Therefore the scrotum saline injections were not the focus of the entire scene, but only a component of it. Devilwoman told me she had negotiated a scene that included scrotal injections followed by knife, sparkler and branding play. It was certainly going to be a lot of fun.

Devilwoman had Cowboy anesthetize the center of the cock just prior to play commencing. We then stripped Cowboy off and placed him on the same gurney Bratty had used earlier.


Alcohol wipes, latex gloves, bandaids, medical tape and the sharps container were again placed on the gurney. This time however, the bag of saline was also placed there, rather than on the IV, with each syringe filled from the bag.

We tied up Cowboy's balls tightly with my favorite CBT cord, to stop the saline from escaping the scrotum. Then ED and Devilwoman began to inject 500mls of saline:


Cowboy's brightly colored and heavily decorated balls looked fantastic as the saline enlarged his scrotum:


Here is the end result:


At this point we removed my bondage cord and let his scrotum settle and spread a moment, before introducing a series of extremely sharp objects into Cowboy's dragon:


We then moved on to sparkler play:


The scene then became serious edgeplay, so I won't continue here. But in terms of infusions it was interesting to see injections into the scrotum as opposed to the saline drip. Thank you again to ED, Devilwoman and Cowboy for letting me share this scene with you.

CONCLUSION

Enough from me for today. I hope reading this post makes watching your next saline scene at a party more comfortable, and has helped fill in some facts if this is a technique you want to try.

If you want more info it's time to check out some of the online resources listed below. There are quite a few videos you can watch on YouTube, and lots of forums where you can discuss the topic. Have fun ... and good luck in your explorations!


REFERENCES AND ONLINE RESOURCES:


anita- Saline Infusion Instructions part 1, part 2, part 3
Dr Dick Scrotal Infusion
Dino Report of my First Scrotal Infusion
Warren Ellis "Crooked Little Vein"

Pumphouse How to do a scrotal infusion
Jeffrey A. Summers, MD A Complication of an Unusual Sexual Practice 2003

FORUMS:
Forum Saline FAQ
BodyMod.org Forum
BodyInflation.org Forum
IC forum thread on scrotal infusion
and here
IC form thread on saline injections
Bondage.com thread on breast saline injections
and here
Topix - saline infusion
Fetlife group on Saline Injections
Fetlife group on Medical Play
Yahoo group for Medical Fetishists

PHOTOS:
BME photos of non saline infusions
BME photos of labia infusions

VIDEOS:
There are lots of saline injection / infusion videos on YouTube.
There are quite a few videos on saline breast injections on ThePainFiles
There a few videos of genital gas inflations on BMEvideo.

RELATED TERMS:
Saline Injection

Thank you:
MistressKitten , Kittens-bratty-one
Rastas
ED, Devilwoman and Cowboy
Life, the Universe and Donna

Anita-
Miss Fleur de Lys

Dr Dick
Shannon
Michael
fembottom49
Kinkybitch1922
Emma
Dino

Photos:

bratty and Cowboy scenes - Ms160
argon gas - Shannon • Jul 11th, 2006
breast injection - unknown provenance

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Another day being kinky...



Sometimes you have a perfect kinky day. Saturday was one such day.

It started with sol and I heading to the nearest caravan park to have a shower, something we've had to do for over a month since our water tank stand collapsed during floods. This may not sound much fun but we've discovered that the family bathroom at this particular caravan park is idea not only for getting clean but for water sports and other wet types of sex and kinky play.

We left the Xmas Present in the car, windows down a little, a container of water and some food close by. She wasn't pleased but it was better better than us showering at home and washing her as well, so she sighed deeply and curled up in the back seat to snooze.

I showered first while sol filled the bath. I've never understood the European habit of bathing in your own dirty water. I do things the Japanese way: wash under a shower first and then hop into a steaming hot bath of clean water. However before I transferred to the bath I directed sol to strip off, sit beneath me and drink my pee. This worked very well. His lips were pressed close against me and he caught every drop.

I left sol scrubbing up under the shower, armed with soap and razor and a hard-on from the watersports, and immersed myself in the hot bath. Total bliss.

When sol was finished in the shower I hopped out, and ran more hot water for him in the bath. He too sank into the water gratefully. I left him there to relax for a while. Then discovered another attribute of the bathroom - if I leaned my ass backwards while gripping the sink I could position my interesting bits directly over sol's head. That was fun. Then I sat on the side of the bath and soaped up his crotch, admiring his Prince Albert piercing as I masturbated him.

Watching his face as always is a delight. When he asked if he may come I said "yes but I may ruin this orgasm". And I did exactly that, his face moving from ecstasy to agony and back. I sooo love being his Mistress!

As he almost snoozed in the bath I washed his feet and back. He would happily have stayed in the bath all afternoon but I looked at the time. "Fuck we're late for the munch!". So we scrambled into our clothes. I'd brough for sol an appalling 1970s blue polyester bodysuit we'd purchased for a couple of dollars at Vinnies, he looked very fetching in it:


The Xmas Present looked at us reproachfully ... our washing sessions were lengthening and she was very bored. "People! Friends! Munch!" I told her as we drove off towards the cafe. The words "ball" and "walkies" were missing so she ignored me and checked out possible prey (cows, motorbikes etc) out the window.

Being late for Fetlife Northern Rivers group munches is a tad rude as its hard for new attendees to spot the table with the dog, when the dog's not there. But we were only five minutes late. We ended up with three large tables pushed together, and much conversation and laughter ensued. We were all amused by the cafe's food ordering system, which left a large number of very provocative wooden spoons on our tables!:


Thank you to everyone who attended, especially those who were attending their first munch :).

The XP behaved well (most of the time) and was delighted to discover Timbukktwo was a dog person. However when we tied the XP up with whyterose's bondage rope, she got her revenge by tying me up in it as well:


At about 4pm the munch finally wrapped up.

Afterwards Timbukktwo and whyterose headed to our place to help with put the tank on the tank stand. Whyterose had given us a hand building the stand last weekend but with only three of us we'd not been able to get the tank up on it. Having another body made all the difference.

Mind you it still took a bit of thinking, re how to get the damn tank up. At one point we tried the bondage rope:


That didn't work but trying to mount the stand (so to speak *grin*) from the side DID work, and finally the tank was in place on the new stand:


Work done, we all sat on the balcony overlooking the valley, drinking coffee and discussing all things kinky. At dusk we moved inside and sat around the fire, with the room lit by candlelight. It was a very pleasant evening, with no need to hide our real natures from our new friends.

Then sol and I took the XP to bed, reviewed our day and watched three episodes of "True Blood". Kinky sex. Real time friends. Then vampires and more sex. A very good day indeed...

Photos:
Ms160

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Ms160's birthday weekend (Part 2: play party)



After the tea party at Mistress_Angelicca and paddy's home, several good friends stayed on to help transform the house for the eighty or so kinksters expected at dinner time.

Sol and I retired to our room for half an hour. When we re-emerged I amused everyone by slothing around in my pink and white flannel pyjamas. They may not be classy but they ARE comfortable AND warm. But all too soon it was time to change into fetish gear....

Mind you, what I was wearing wasn't really uncomfortable. Dressing for warmth (as it was a mostly outdoor affair) I wore black leather boots, my Marquis de Sade PVC skirt, jacket, Gallery Serpentine waist cincher, black leather fingerless opera gloves ... and the great hat Devilwoman brought for me, bless her. I matched the red band on the hat with scarlet stockings and a much beloved bracelet:


I was Dungeon Monitor, along with our hosts, which is why I am wearing the tiny red and black torch on my right wrist:


Having extra light fast is extremely helpful if something goes wrong during a scene, and you need to undo or cut something fast. I can either just point the torch from my wrist, or quickly put it around my head - its actually a caving torch and is supposed to be worn on the forehead.

The nice thing about being a DM is that it gives you the authority to perv. There were two interesting scenes I remember from that night. One was done with licorice by a couple I knew from Midori's visit. Licorice. Yep, you read that correctly! However my favorite scene was a blood cupping scene between tntnikki and her sub, of whom she writes so expressively on Fetlife:
"We own a "squishie", who IS submissive, and he fits nicely into the mix- having a live in who is service oriented in nature is certainly a much welcomed plus- but aside from that, his brain, both smart and funny is a welcome addition to our Tribe"
Squishie had just served with grace and distinction at our tea party. I look forward to sharing many more tea party experiences with them.

Readers of this blog will probably have heard of cupping, but not blood cupping or wet cupping. Cupping of course is derived from a traditional form of therapeutic treatment that's very common not only in Asia, but all around the planet. Originally bamboo cups, and then metal and glass cups were developed, with fire being used to create a vacuum in the cups once the latter were firmly positioned on the skin.

Fire cupping makes a striking BDSM scene, I've done it once. In Nik's scene a hand-held pump was used to extract the air from valve-fitted cups and create the vacuum. This pulls the skin upwards. Either way the end result is a very erotic form of sensation play...

Bruises occur under the cups, where the skin is raised into the cup via the suction stimulating an acupressure effect. The skin often becomes very dark once the cups are removed. It looks painful but done properly, is not. What cupping doesn't usually do is bleed, lol. Let me tell you what I saw.

I arrived on site at the point in the scene where all the cups were in place, and Nik was doing nasty things to Squishie's back, alternating gentle fingertips with sharp objects and a violet wand on his incredibly sensitive skin:


I was stunned by the amount of blood in the cups, and found myself sharing a quick glance to the party's first aid officer, who like me, had only just arrived:


From her expression we were in agreement: What was all that blood doing there?! It was only later in the scene when Nik removed the cups that we realized she had made an incision into the skin under each cup. Brilliant.

This technique - of making the incision under the cup - was intriguing for me to see. It reminded me of the blood cupping I'd seen in the Middle East. It's called hijamah in Arabic, which translates as "sucking". It's a form of traditional therapeutic blood letting that is even referred to in the Qu'ran. It's usually performed on the head - the back is not especially recommended, as one should not lie down during the treatment. The cup is left to cling to the skin for a few minutes, then it is lifted off and several tiny incisions are made in the skin. The cup is then put back as it was before until it is filled with blood.

Now Nik was not filling the cups with blood, not by any means. But the technique certainly made an effective and erotic kinky blood play scene! I continued to watch as Squishie's body responded delightfully to Nik's various tortures:


Sparks flew as the violet wand again came into play...

When it was time to remove the cups, Nik donned latex gloves and several of us stepped forward to help with holding up the plastic sheet draped over the massage table. As the suction in the cups vanished, the taut skin began to relax and the blood dribbled and ran...


Nik swirled her hands through the blood to stop it dripping too much down the sides.


It looks very dramatic but it's really not painful. Soon Squishie was sitting up, and then was accompanied down to the shower by Nik's husband and the first aid officer. The sheet was quickly folded up and removed. Nik then disinfected the massage table top as well. It's always important to take these kind of precautions after blood play. I've listed some articles on blood play, cutting and cupping in the References + Online Resources section at the bottom of the post, if you feel like learning more...

Later I wrote to Nik asking about her technique, whether she had heard of wet cutting or hijamah. She replied that she was aware of bloodletting and blood cupping but in Asian cultures, but not of the Middle East link:

"I've used my cupping set often - and had it used on me often and it is a wonderfully relaxing thing! I've done cuttings often too, but that was the first time I have combined the two. It was only Squishie's second time being cut.

"And I used just a scratch, not an actual deep cut. I scratched small X marks- not deep enough to draw blood on their own- because it was interesting to watch the X's burst open on the first suck in!

"I plan for more decorative things in the near future- the circular bruises will lend themselves to interesting designs when combined with cuts- I'm thinking a pentacle and an eye design soon, which will incorporate the larger circle"

I never cease to be dazzled by the creativity of kinksters, in their search for new games to play and new techniques to inflict. Inspiration is quite literally, all around us. I find myself wondering if Nik will ever be tempted to push her experiments further and completely fill those cups. With any luck I might be DMing again :).

The massage table Nik used during the scene was one of my birthday presents. What a perfect scene to christen it. Towards the end of the evening Mistress_Angelicca produced a very pink birthday cake with sparkler candles (she knows I now have a fondness for sparkler play!):



You can't blow out sparklers like candles, although I tried VERY hard....

I sent sol to bed at midnight. Play had finished by about 1am but I stayed up talking with my hosts and good friends until 4am. For which I seriously suffered on Sunday. Definitely a good birthday weekend...

REFERENCES + ONLINE RESOURCES:
H. A. Hâyar Albinali, Traditional Medicine Among Gulf Arabs Part II - Blood Letting,
Heart Views
, Volume 5, No.2, June-August 2004
Titanium Angel Blood play
Subhuti Dharmananda CUPPING
Fire play
Leather Barbie Cupping and fire play
Noir Silence Blood play
Rose Veraga Playing with blood
Healthy Muslim Hijama


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Thank you:

to our weekend / party hosts
Mistress_Angelicca and paddy
for a terrific time :)
and
to
tntnikki
and squishie
for sharing photos and their scene
and finally,
to
Devilwoman

for that great hat!

Photos:
Ms160
Scootah
reproduced with permission