Gifts of commitment and friendship

Last weekend sol and I flew to Sydney to attend the kinky "other wedding" of two of our friends, Rake and Hawkesbury.

We've known Rake and Hawkesbury for a while now. We have mutual friends in the Sydney scene and often run into them at events like Black Sash Salons and Uber parties and workshops. I was delighted when Rake won Second Place in the 2008 Lucrezia & De Sade / Sax Fetish Photographic Competition (excellent image ... you can see it here).

Their "other wedding" was a magical night. It was such an honor to be invited - their invitation was beautiful (Rake has very kindly allowed me to reproduce it above). I'd never seen the term kinky / other wedding used before. Although once you think of it, it makes perfect sense. Rake and Hawkesbury had held their vanilla wedding a month or so before. Now it was time for them to affirm their D/s relationship.

Usually kinksters call this a collaring ceremony. What's a collaring ceremony, or a collar, you ask? Well these are as individual as weddings lol but here's the Albany Power Exchange's attempt at a definition:

"A collar in BDSM symbolizes a commitment that has often been compared to a wedding ring ... When the submissive accepts the collar, the submissive surrenders to the Dominant and makes a promise to be devoted and loyal. Some collars are made with no clasp to signify the never ending love of the relationship. Other collars have a ring to attach a leash and a place for an engraved tag or pendant to show ownership. The collar is to be worn in the presence of the Dominant at all times. When apart, all the submissive needs to do is touch it to be reminded of the bond they share. Each collaring is a unique symbol of love, respect and a bond between two people who care greatly for each other"

Why a collar? Historically slaves were "collared" by those who owned them, and a collar of ownership - the important thing to note here is that we are talking about a consensual collar of ownership - is common in contemporary BDSM. Along with lots of different types of collars. Some kinksters prefer to use a brand, tattoo or permanent piercing to express their commitment. Or a different type of jewelry, such as a bracelet that can pass easier in the vanilla world. In fact, a collar may not have any physical form at all.

You can read more about collaring in the resource list at the bottom of this post. Regular readers will probably have seen sol wear a collar in many photos, and I often write about his leather collar. But we have not formalized this part of our relationship. Yet.

Rake and Hawkesbury's ceremony was held at their home. My friend MsDee from Uber acted as "best man" to the beautiful Hawkesbury as she crawled naked up the red carpet to Rake.


Moving speeches from mutual friends were made on the nature of D/s commitment. Then Hawksbury unrolled her vows and read them. Rake responded. The collar (a stunning steel one purchased in San Francisco, you can see it in the photo of the invitation) and leash were put on...

I've kept my description of the ceremony very general because every couple's vows and contract are extremely personal. While checking what I could include in this post, Rake kindly noted that I might share that the vows / contract were:

"written as a series of offers from the submissive: mind, heart, body; thought, dreams, desires; etc; Love & Loyalty. In turn I humbly accepted the offer, with respect to the trust and responsibility she has placed in me; but then I added that I will expect more from her; and that she not retreat when challenged"

Rake and Hawksbury wrote the contract / vows the night before, and had already privately read them to each other. They had found this a very moving moment, Rake later writing to me:

"Making the public reading almost secondary to us. For us the vows are the key to our D/S relationship, and the collar is merely a symbol of the dedication we have to each other"

Their words certainly moved me - it was just like a wedding in that every committed D/s couple there was immediately teary eyed, remembering their own partner and ceremonies, both kinky and vanilla. I know that when sol and I come to write our own D/s contract / vows, we'll be asking Rake and Hawkesbury for their thoughts.


The invitation read "stay and play all night" and that's what everyone did.

It was great to catch up with so many friends. Among the guests were MzAntonina and MactheKnife, who are friends and casual play partners with us. We arranged to meet them the following day for a coffee and to try out some new toys on our subs.

We spent a really enjoyable couple of hours in their beautiful home. I love homes where the kinkiness of the occupants is there for all to see, if you know where to look (their living room featured a brilliant photo of MactheKnife in a leather puppy mask). They also had a designated play room. Such a luxury, that! After coffee, I handed over my Central Asian horse whip and rawhide flogger and MzAntonina handed me her new cane, and we both launched ourselves on sol's ass. Makes vanilla afternoon coffee visits seem a bit tame lol. Here's MzAntonina using the Central Asian horse whip:


We both enjoyed swapping canes and floggers so much that I took home her cane and promised to bring her a Central Asian flogger on our next trip to Sydney! (PS: we did this, I was delighted to find one with a rare lapis and silver handle).

Speaking of gifts, MzAntonina is one of those talented fiends who does many things disgustingly well. Making jewelry is one of them. She showed me the charm bracelets she'd been making and I was blown away by their elegance and beauty. When we were leaving she unexpectedly gave me one for an early birthday present. It was exquisite. I was absolutely overwhelmed.


Later that night I showed the bracelet to the newly married couple, who were having dinner with sol and myself and MsDee and her partner, with whom we were staying. We were eating outside in their backyard, the basil from their herb garden scenting the air. There was much laughter and conversation and good food. The candles on the center of the table were blazing brightly, catching the scarlet, black and bronze charms on the bracelet as well as the metal rings on sol's leather cuffs:


My bracelet was greatly admired. I admitted I'd not had the luxury of new jewelry for a while, and how much I loved the fact my friend had put some thought into what suited my sense of style. Hawksbury admired the bracelet again, looked at me a moment and then said "I have a bracelet I don't wear much" and a moment later produced a lovely bangle of bright glass and plastic beads . "It's yours", she said.


So there I sat, adorned with gifts of friendship as we rewatched our friends take their vows on my camera, checked out their vanilla wedding photos from their own cameras, and shared a wonderful meal and some extraordinary wine.

It was hard to leave all our friends yesterday, but at least I was able to look forward to the fact that we (MsDee, Rake and Hawkesbury, and my jeweler / artist friend and her partner) would soon all reassemble for Uber's panel on "How to find a Dom(me) and keep them".

Flying home last night I looked at the two gifts on my arm. Gifts from two very different women I call my friends, yet both united in their being members of my local kinky community. Both articulate, bright women with whom I can equally discuss international politics or caning. REAL women, everyday women, who were both in 24/7 relationships - albeit in opposite roles - and who both made kink work on a daily basis.

This is what creates the reality of being kinky, not the fantasy. I know I can be a bore when I go on about trying to get people online to go real time, but I do it so that people can experience exactly these kind of real relationships and individuals.

Sitting on the plane I realized sol and I had just spent a perfect weekend surrounded by the most wonderful kinky friendship. I held my arm up and jingled my bracelets. They looked vanilla. Like Hawksbury's collar. She will wear that collar everywhere, it's powerful meaning - the memory of her vows - concealed to most. But tangibly there with her, to remind her of what matters most.


I will wear my bracelets everywhere, their meaning - the gift of kinky community, of friendship - equally concealed. But equally there. Only I will know they contain the memory of that weekend. Those memories - those very special vows, the BDSM scenes at the party and later, the good food and wine, the laughter of friends - will warm me every time I wear these gifts of kinky friendship.

sincere thanks to
our hosts at
the kinky wedding
and to Rake
for the "special scene name"
version of the invite!

WANT MORE INFO ABOUT
COLLARING CEREMONIES?

Links page on collaring
Wiki on collaring
Collars: who, what, why...
Collaring guidelines
The collar and it's meaning
Formal Collar or Slave Collar
Examples of collaring rituals
IRC Collaring Ceremony

You will find lots of links to private collaring ceremonies if you google "BDSM collaring ceremony"

Photos:
Ceremony invitation - Rake
Ceremony photos - Ms160 with Rake's permission
sol, scene + bracelets - Ms160

4am play...

Recently sol and I were in Sydney for our friends' kinky wedding. I've written about the weekend in another post, one I'm waiting for permission to reproduce some images from the wedding, before posting. This post is what happened at 4am one morning when sol couldn't sleep.

We'd spent the afternoon with good friends, with sol face down receiving a caning at one point. And then the evening at Dee's (where we were staying) with Dee and her absolutely fantastic cook of a partner (who reads this blog now and then to see how the Xmas Present is growing lol *Ms160 waves*) and the newly married couple. It was a magical night of great conversation and with sol still warm from his caning:


Very late we headed to bed.

Sleep came for me but sol tossed and turned. At 4am I gave up sleeping, turned my headlight on (I wear a caving headlight on my forehead at home at night because we don't use electricity for lighting at night. I often take it with me during trips - it makes a great bedlight or lights up the area I'm working on during a scene) and drew down the blankets. Yep sol was definitely in need of some attention lol.

He was wearing his cuffs so I tied a silk scarf to the top of the bed and attached his wrist cuffs:


I raised his T shirt and tortured his nipples for a few minutes with my fingernails. Then I began masturbating him...

After a while I used a leather flogger on his cock, and then wrapped it around his balls and gently tugged:


I increased the pressure, pulling his balls downwards, all the while masturbating with my hand:


When he neared orgasm I stopped ... then began again but this time added a tiny vibrator under the leather:


I continued masturbating him with my left hand and now used my leather wrapped cane to cane his cock and balls with my right hand:

It was not long before he begged me to come.

I graciously agreed:


Then wiped the come from my fingers into his mouth:

And made him suck my fingers clean:


"Better?" I asked, "think you can sleep now?".

But he was already fast asleep!

"How do I find a Dominant and get them to keep me?" - An Uber:learn "panel, discussion + forum" in Sydney

A reminder about what's shaping up to be a really interesting educational event next weekend in Sydney.

Uber: learn is holding a "panel discussion & forum" titled "how do i find a dom(me) and get them to keep me?" on Sunday 29th March at Manacle, at the Clarence Hotel (450 Parramatta Rd, Peterhsam).

Ms Dee writes:

"a new format for workshop forums for us. a nominated panel, led by a relevant, topical facilitator. actively discussing the topic at hand. all ready to be quizzed and challenged by the audience in a forum configuration.

today's discussion - what can a submissive do to attract a dominant, and what do they have to do to ensure the relationship gets off the starting block, and stays in the race."

I'm on the panel. So are several friends who grace the pages of this blog, including the always brilliant MsGawjusRedhead and of course Uber's wonderful Ms Dee.

It's shaping up to be a really interesting event and I really encourage anyone searching for a play partner to come along and join in the discussion and ask those questions you've always wanted to ask on this very important topic.

Quite seriously boys and girls this could be the best $20 you've ever spent, if it results in your finding a Dominant!

You can reserve your place here. It starts at 2:30pm and runs for approx 2 hrs.

(logo: Uber:learn)

Bondage Puppy

I have several friends who check this blog out now and then, not for our sex life or kinky scenes lol ... nope, they want to see the Xmas Present. So here's a recent photo as she nears six months of age ... you can also find some new posts about her on our home blog.

While on the subject of bondage, don't forget to vote in the Bondage Awards!

(photo: Ms160)

Ms160's musings: thoughts on cyber ownership

Sitting here typing, with my latex riding boot clad feet up
next to the puppy...

QL's Recipe for Submissive Anticipation:
(prior to undertaking Ms160 and MissBonnie's course)

Ingredients:
One Nervous Submissive
Two Classy Evil Domme Minds
One Taste of Cyber Submission Class
One list of toys drawn up by the Dommes
One Global Internet Communication Thingy

Then:
Put into blender
Turn on "puree"
Wait several days

Final result:
Submissive mind should have the consistency of Jell-o.
Submissive may jump nervously when poked.
Dommes should smile broadly and often,
even laugh and guffaw on occasion.

When I first got into cyber kink I had a small stable of online submissives. I learned a great deal. Part of what I learned is that I take ownership very seriously and that most cyber kinksters don't. For most it's a game. For me it was real. Perhaps because I was inexperienced at the time. Perhaps because I came from a real time kink background and understood ownership in a 24/7 situation.

I adored my online stable members. I only had a few. I put a lot of work into their selection. I knew they suited me in terms of kinky interests, I liked them as individuals and enjoyed their company. Sol and I even shared ownership of a female sub, who was very dear to us. Everyone had a lot of fun.

And if they didn't think it was fun my online subs sometimes disappeared. By not being fun it don't mean I imposed dreadful rules upon them. I didn't. I think it stopped being fun when their hearts and minds really began to get involved. We lost our beloved female sub - who simply vanished - after discussions about collaring. One moment we were discussing final plans and logistics and then she was gone.

From this I learned that cyber play needed to remain play. And I kept things light. And after a while I gave up my cyber stable. I still played in chatrooms with regular play partners and had a lot of fun, but I didn't want to OWN anyone. Except real time.

And then Miss Bonnie and I created A Taste of Cyber Submission, a totally unique online educational course with an ownership component. This means whenever this course runs - at the moment we are running it once a month and it's booked up several months in advance - for the two weeks of the course I 'own' eleven subs, ten of which I share with Miss Bonnie.

On one level this is truly weird. I hardly know any of these men. You can't get to know anyone properly in two weeks. You certainly can't train them.

But this course is not about those things. It's about providing a "taste" of cyber submission, it's about providing a glimpse of the possibilities cyber ownership can provide ... so that afterwards these students can make decisions as to whether cyber submission is something they want to pursue or not. Because pursuit of that particular dream is really tough.

This course is also tough. It asks levels of obedience and commitment from men unused to these things. But they MUST learn them or they will never satisfy the needs of a real dominant, online or real time. They MUST allow themselves to fall into their submissive mindset during the course ... and if they can't find that mindset then they have hard questions to face after the course, as to their submissive nature.

These are hard things to ask of students, so the rewards (the fun parts) we offer for their obedience and commitment are equally important. We told students accepted on the course, you can dodge the hard parts and just do the fun parts but ultimately the end result is that you will learn nothing about yourself. It's up to you.

But we are truly there for you, if you are willing to put in the work. And being there is important, because the word many students use when they commit to the course is "trust". It's used in many ways but the main issues are they need to trust us before they can allow themselves to "go under" (as sol calls slipping into his submissive mindset). They need to trust that we won't damage them while they are vulnerable. They need to trust that we will be there for them when they re-emerge.

To someone who doesn't understand the nature of true submission I'm sure what I've written above makes no sense at all lol. But one of my strongest, earliest memories of the complete power of D/s was lying in sol's single bed when we were both still at university, eye to eye, and saying to him: "let yourself go ... I am here ... you are mine ... I won't let you go" and watching him consciously let go and sink into that extraordinary place.

This is what I want our students to achieve, that incredible sense of submission. Even if they only experience it once or twice on the course, the fact they can experience it shows they are true subs, with a D/s future.

You can't have the kind of connection I have with sol with cyber submissives but cyber relationships can still be extremely intense and powerful. One of my cyber subs used to talk about the invisible bonds that connected us, as cyber dominant and sub. She said those bonds were like loving cords that steadied her in daily life, held her safe when she "went under" and tightened erotically around her in bed at night, or when we played.

Those bonds go out to any I own, even those who are owned temporarily within a teacher / student D/s bond. I will never get to know our students well. I will never know most of their real names or share the intimacy of true, longterm D/s relationships with them. But for two weeks - whether they play the game for real or just for the fun parts - I will OWN them and those bonds WILL exist.

Miss Bonnie and I will hold them safe on their journey.

For more on studyBDSM click here
(we'll have our own site soon)

xposted in part from Ms160's CNC blog
(thank you to ql :) )

Caning with clover clamps....

Another perfect Autumn weekend...

On Saturday we'd supported our local World Naked Bike Ride (pic above) then Sunday it was back to slothing around at home, outside on our veranda with XP and Burmese Queen:

They both love sol because he spoils them:


Then it was time to spoil us...

With dinner cooking, we brought out the folding workbench and did our usual trick placing one end at a slight angle, and covering the top with pillows, sheepskins and a large white towel. I attached sol's wrist cuffs to the legs at the lowered end. He was wearing a black t shirt for warmth and a pair of pretty pink panties he'd purchased for himself last week. They were like miniature boy shorts.I loved the way they cut across his ass. I also loved the idea of a male buying female panties in a pseudo male style for his own use!


I changed into a short back t shirt, then took a moment to pee into a small bowl. I then presented this to sol. His position on the bench meant he had to lap at it like a dog.

I inserted a small vibrator under his tight panties - they held it perfectly in place - with the point near his asshole and turned it on:


I played with his nipples for a while until he began to relax and murmur quietly, then used my hand to spank his cheeks until we had a bit of color. I then removed the vibrator, lowered his panties and began to cane him. Every ten strokes or so I'd stop and play with his hardon and his asshole:

Caning is an intense sensation but sol and I both need more so after a while I attached one end of our Japanese clover clamps to his ball sack, between the balls, and attached the other end of the clamps to the bottom of his t shirt:

I positioned things so the clamp on his balls rested against his asshole:


I then slowly moved the t shirt higher on his back, upping the tension on the clamps' connecting chain until his balls separated:

This caused quite a lot of agony and yowling. After a while I removed the clover clamps and went back to caning. This time I told sol to count. I used my two favorite Eric Carradine rattan canes and my riding crop. During a short rest break at twenty five strokes I fed sol my pee on my fingers. By forty strokes sol's knees had turned inward and his groans were very satisfying:


When we reached fifty strokes I said "sorry, I lied" and continued. "You can take a little more ... you have such nice marks". They were too, although I made a mess of my strokes - these photos were taken with a flash, the actual scene took place in candle light and I wrapped several strokes on sol's left buttock. Still, nice marks, especially with the imprint of the leather tip of the riding crop on top of the double lines from the various canes:


At sixty six strokes I stopped, undid sol's restraints and took him to bed where we finished with a very nice orgasm. It was then my turn to come but the truth was our dinner (sol's "pork of four happinesses" ... I must put the recipe here) smelt so wonderful that I decided food should come first!

Photos: Ms160

Creating a kinky intentional community in Australia

This post was first published on our D/s retreat blog,
however due to interest in our ideas on creating
a kinky intentional community in Oz, I've xposted it here:

Yes, the signage in the photo above does read "Faerieland", and yes, these particular faeries are very close to where we live. What's the connection?! Read on ... all will be explained....

Many regular readers know sol and I made a major lifestyle change last year, and are now living as eco kinksters in the Northern Rivers region of NSW, Australia. You may also know of our other dream, the main reason we moved to this particular area. I've been amused in a nice way by some of my American regular readers who've dropped me a line to ask me if I'm promoting communism in posting about my desire to create a kinky intentional community, or in their terms: "commune" *grin*. I should call a spade a spade, one of you wrote.

The thing is, I'm not of the generation that used the word, so it's not that I'm avoiding it, it's just not my term of choice. We use intentional community. Here in Northern NSW we also use MO or "multiple occupancy" and I've posted about the meaning of that term before. It's because Northern Rivers region councils tolerate MO's that sol and I moved north to organize a kinky intentional community here.

So what's an intentional community, some of you ask.

There are thousands of intentional communities worldwide - you'll find some listed here, here and here. People form intentional communities for all sorts of reasons. For example, it's very fashionable at the moment to practice all things green - you'll find lots of self sustaining, eco friendly communities listed places like here. In fact, sol and I looked at buying into one of these communities when we first began to look seriously at moving. But the more we looked at these terrific places the more we realized what we wanted was a sense of community, yes, but amongst like minds. As I wrote in the "Dreaming of Rainbows" post:

"There are hundreds of intentional communities in Australia, each with its own way of living, philosophy and goals. When sol and I moved to the Rainbow Region it was in part in the hope that at some time in the future we could initiate a kinky MO, which would be accepted by the many alternative lifestyle communities that would surround it. Privacy is also important in the design of most MO's, something kinksters share. For example, you can see the proximity to vanilla neighbours that most kinksters experience in an average suburban street, in the diagram below:


Now compare that to the layout of the average MO, keeping in mind that even when you encounter your neighbors they will be kinky and so not mind what you get up to!:


The community hall found in most MO's (yellow square above) also becomes a play space for kinksters..."

Etc, etc. And I certainly touched a chord in what I wrote because we've had several kinksters contact us wanting to join us. We all possess a dream of a couple of hundred acres where we can live the Lifestyle openly, make all the noise we want, play outdoors all we want ... there is now a small group of us discussing this. What type of land, and where, and how much? How many shares will we sell? Let's run a kinky community play space, and an education centre, and a D/s restreat ... they are wonderful dreams...

This desire to be a part of a community is common to many kinksters worldwide, and is often the focus of discussions at kinky events. After attending TEASE (a 5 day long BDSM camping convention near London, Ontario) last year chloe from Fetlife wrote:

"By the end of five days, the general consensus was that no one wanted to leave! The experience of being able to be completely free to live our lifestyle and build an accepting, welcoming community affected so many people. It was truly a chosen family, and many people realised that there is a void when it comes to the kinky community in that there really is no place where like-minded kinksters can gather for more than a few hours besides the usual munches, parties and the occasional weekend event. While those types of events are fun and an integral part of what the community has consisted of so far, many people felt that the fellowship and community of a real place to call "home" (if only for a few days at a time) is something that many people are missing and would embrace with open arms.

"For more and more people, BDSM is a lifestyle, but one that is generally practised behind closed doors or in short-duration parties and conferences. Wouldn't having somewhere to go (where everybody knows your naaaaame, dun dun dun) where you had a home, friendly neighbours, and the sounds of flogging and screams be just... lovely? I think so!"

So do sol and myself and our friends but we want more than "a few days at a time". Chloe by the way has started making her own dream of a kinky community happen - she created the "Kinky Campground Planning Group" on Fetlife : "a group for those interested in helping to organize a permanent BDSM/fetish/kink tent and trailer park in Southwestern Ontario. Feel free to join, post your ideas and input, and help make this dream a reality!". Although this is not planned to be a year round abode, there are some great ideas being posted in the group. I loved one post in particular, a part of discussion re a site they were considering that was currently owned by a Christian group. Here's DliciouslyEvil:

"A car drives up the driveway, its occupants' eyes wide with shock stare at the woman suspended from a tree and the near-naked human pony pulling a cart. The car turns quickly and retreats down the driveway its hurried departure kicking up dust. The kinky folk look at each other, "Christians, another year and word will get around that the campground's changed ownership".

This soooo sums up why we kinksters desire our own communities!

So why not join a pre-existing kinky community? Because they are very rare, or at least hard to find, that's why. As usual the kinky community is running years behind the queer community, who have already created some extraordinary intentional communities to live. A good place to check those communities out is via Queer In Community: "the intentional communities network for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgendereds, queers, faeries, dykes, and the people who love us":

"We do not limit ourselves to any particular definition of queer. For some, it means sexuality in any form beyond traditional heterosexual coupling. Others refuse to define queer at all, on the basis that you know queer when you see it, and any definition is limiting and confining. By "queer-positive" we mean welcoming with open arms, embracing the queerness of queer members and friends, and considering a queer life path to be a positive thing..."

Sounds a good place to live, doesn't it? You can find their Directory here. It's an inspiring read. They list one kinky gay - and Christian - community:

Sir's Retreat
Wanted Serious Replies from Submissive Slendar Bisexuals & Gay Men for a Christian Commune up in Siskiyou County 15 miles northeast of Yreka, California and 25 miles southeast of Ashland, Oregan a Hippy Commune for Men

I had trouble with the contact details for this place, but was able to find a further mention in a post about BornSlaves, from which I assumed the retreat was an annual event rather than a permanent community. Let's hope there are more kinky communities out there, somewhere, practicing the privacy we all thrive on. There MUST be some. You'd think that Gor communities and even leather families would go for the idea of a vanilla free community. In fact extended leather families are not dissimilar from poly familes, and there are an increasing number of those "going public" on various lists - like this New Zealand website. It's terrific to read that:

"intentional communities are springing up all around New Zealand as people begin to see the value in living with like minded people ...

"sometimes [intentional] communities are based on religion or belief, sometimes they are based on relationship dynamics like polyamory. Although a relatively new concept to modern Europeans it has long been a part of the way of life of many indigenous cultures"

QIC also list polyamorous communities, such as Kyn Hearth:

"Located in the beautiful Blue Ridge mountains of southwestern Virginia on 69 acres of wooded land ... Kyn Hearth is open to and supportive of all healthy relationship orientations, including gay, bi, trans, poly, lesbian, and celibate sexual orientations. The present "main" focus though, is on creating a polyamorous extended family/community:

Nasalam ( "a tantric community ... experience shows that only queer people open to this kind of energy exchange") and Starland ("generally promote polysexual and polyamorous lifestyles ... we also serve as the Southern California Radical Faeries Sanctuary").

Fairie sanctuary? Do I see you raise your eyebrows? Ah ha. Then perhaps you've not of the Radical Faeries?! There are all sorts of versions of their history around - take a look here for a few of them. Larry Roberts once described a Radical Faerie event as "like coming home, when you've never been there before." Hold that thought. The Radical Faeries certainly understand the need for intentional communities. You'll find a list of their sanctuaries - basically rural or urban intentional communities where Faeries live a communal life - on the radfae.org website, extraordinary places like Zuni Mountain Sanctuary in New Mexico:

"a gender-inclusive Radical Faerie Sanctuary on 315 acres in a four season mountain climate. Our community works to create an earth-oriented rural permaculture which supports our individual and collective spiritual and creative growth"

There is even a sanctuary in Australia. Let me digress here a little and tell you about the history of the Australian Radical Faeries:

"While the radical faerie community in the USA has been gathering and forming intentional communities for over thirty years, Australia has experienced its own history of faerie gatherings, circles, communities and networking since the early 80’s. Gays and lesbians had begun doing the hippie thing spurred on by the same motivations as their North American brother and sister “hippies”. There was a queer presence at the earliest rock, lifestyle and alternative festivals that began in 1967. But where it all took off was the Nimbin Aquarius Festival in 1973"

Aquarius Festival, Nimbin, 1993
Photo: Jacklyn Wagner
from the 'Some Children of the Dream' exhibition'
Nimbin Regional Gallery 2nd - 25th May, 2003

I wrote about this festival in the earlier post where I discussed our dream of creating a kinky intentional community. It was held literally just down the road. The festival:

"was concerned more with lifestyle than music, and gays and lesbians were there in force playing key roles. In rural areas, as well as Sydney, Melbourne, Adelaide and Canberra, queer hippies were dropping out and turning on in the same ways as their US counterparts ...

"Australian gay men had discovered the radical faeries and their magazine RFD ... The Northern Rivers/Nimbin region of NSW has had a long history of queer hippie folk living communally and being part of the counter-culture movement ... Mandala near Murwillumbah, Lawrence Station near Grafton and CommonGround near Kempsey were three communities that began to grow in the early 80’s in northern NSW.

"The first “faerie” gathering was held at Mandala near Nimbin in the Spring of 1982 hosted by Lemuel and David. Other gatherings followed and at the 10th Anniversary Aquarius Festival at Nimbin NSW over 100 queers created a fabulous faerie camp supported by the Mandala crew ... Over the years, an emerging group of faeries gathered for meetings and began thinking and dreaming about purchasing a property to create an Australian sanctuary...

In 2002 they purchased "134 acres of rolling re-growth rainforests and more open land about 20min north-west of Nimbin, Northern N.S.W". So their dream closely coincides with ours - not only in location but in the nature of our experiences:

"Faeries gather together to explore the pathways leading to our spiritual essence, to find out who we are as queer people. Most of us grew up in nuclear families. The feeling of being outside the norm was for many painful and gave many of us no choice but to develop the understanding of an outsider. Our erotic inclinations release most of us from our duties of child rearing. Without a map we have had the chance to re-invent our lives by extending our passions in art, nature, play, work, fantasy and magic. We are gifted with difference"

I am truly delighted that they have made their dream a reality, and that Faerieland is so close to where sol and I now live. It makes me happy to imagine this particular intentional community going about it's day... Let's hope we can make our dream - and chloe's dream over in Canada - happen, too. Kinksters are also gifted with difference.

Thank you to those of you who have contacted us, about this. Your support and enthusiasm keeps us going. Keep in touch. Keep giving us your valuable feedback on the real estate links we send you (and keep sending your own links!).

And if you are reading this and it makes you recall your own dreams, drop me a line (via the private message system on Fetlife, where I also run a Northern NSW group for kinksters). Please! It doesn't matter whether you can join us now or in ten years time when the kids leave home, this kinky community idea is unusual enough that you really should get involved now, at it's beginning - take part in discussions about land selection and location and purchase ... and reserve a share!

UPDATE - July 2009:
Plans are proceeding well :)

REFERENCES AND ONLINE RESOURCES:

Local poly resources
New Zealand poly resources (also chat and forum)

Kinky Campground Planning Group

You'll find a huge list of resources about intentional communities and multiple occupancies at the end on my Dreaming of Rainbows post :)

Thank you:
http://www.ozfaeries.com/
Kinky Campground Planning Group on Fetlife

Photos:
courtesy
http://www.ozfaeries.com/
Jacklyn Wagner
Re-imagining Utopia ABC Radio National

Weekend Kinky Task Day....

Sunday was a beautiful day so we made it a Kinky Task Day.

The First Kinky Task of the day was to write a bit more of the Taste of Cyber Submssion course "lessons". This made me so horny that sol went down on me for a while, as I worked on the computer...

After lunch it was time for our Second Kinky Task: cleaning and tidying the toy boxes. We dragged the toy boxes outside in the sun. Sol soaped up each toy and handed them to me for a rinse wipe:

Then we left everything to dry in the sun and breeze. You can see the singletail and floggers hanging outside near the hammock in the top photo in this post.

Third Kinky Task was creating a new attachment point in the ceiling, for indoor play. I gave sol some instructions ... and soon after, I had just what I wanted:


I like the way the chain now dangles int the middle of the living area, lol:

Forth kinky task was ... to play!

We headed for the shower, stopped to chat with a kinky friend on the phone for a while, then it was play time. I directed sol to put on his wrist and ankle cuffs and attach the latter to a wooden spreader bar. I then handed him the leather parachute and told him to place it around his balls:

I love watching guys put this device on:

Once installed, I attached sol's wrist cuffs to the new attachment point, knelt down and began to hang fishing weights from his balls:

I attached Japanese clover clamps to his nipples, then enjoyed a very pleasant ten minutes or so walking around him, tweeking weights and clamps:

I then added to the sensation play by using our favorite leather paddle in his rear, alternating strokes with masturbating him. Shortly after this I allowed him to come, which he did all over my sarong, boys are sooo messy....

Such a pleasant way to spend an hour...

Within a few minutes sol was fast asleep in bed. Hmmm, thinks Ms160, still horny ... I'll let him sleep for a bit and then wake him and demand service in the form of Kinky Task Five: pleasuring Mistress ... meanwhile I'll fetch the laptop and go back to writing Femdom porn while I'm feeling inspired!

(Photos: Ms160)

Melbourne workshop: Rough Body Play: Sat 14 March 2009

My friend Natalya runs kinky workshops in Melbourne through her organization Adrenachrome.
Here's the latest: Rough Body Play:

"Did you start to breathe heavy during Fight Club? Was it the script or the thud of fists on flesh, punching, kicking and pure adrenaline? Then this workshop is for you. Without Brad Pitt (sadly), We will cover the safety aspects of Rough Body Work and how to do this without the Top being injured, or the bottom being truly harmed. From there, we move onto the "Thug Play" bare fisted punching, kicking the body and groin. Percussive impact with open hands, right through to crushing using body weight. This is the Level 1 workshop for beginners to this type of play.

"Previous attendees of Adrenachrome workshops will get first pick of the places. Attendance fee is $20 per person payable in advance, and the workshop is at the usual venue (in Melbourne, Australia). It is preferable you come with someone who can be your human punching bag, but if you can't I do have a couple of bottoms who are willing to sacrifice themselves for us to learn on. If you're interested, drop me a line on adrenachrome@aapt.net.au. Don't forget to let me know whether you're BYO bottom or not!"