Impressing The Diva

Okay so what's wrong with the photo below?:


It's a strap-on harness so it's probably Ms160 in it ... but wait ... is that a real cock in it? Ms160 is a man, you always knew it!

Nope, the PA piercing gives it away, lol. It's sol trying on my old Mistress S leather strap-on harness! In this household we definitely know who has the bigger cock:


On Sunday after our Hunt guests left I decided it was time for a little strap on play. I had promised a couple of blog readers that I'd write another in depth "how to" version of a strap-on scene. I also wanted to try out the new harness Steve Sax gave me a couple of weeks back: the ever popular Diva.:


I'd tried it on and found it comfortable. But I had something I was interested in checking: when you put a dildo with balls in the Sax Diva harness you need to leave the bottom stud undone (see their online catalogue photo above) My task today was to see how that open stud affected the support of the dildo. Was I going to be able to thrust easily or was stability going to be an issue?

It was a magical warm afternoon so we decided to play on the deck, over looking the valley. We brought the massage bed out and set up the enema kit and other play items:


And yes that is a leather strap-on harness and dildo hanging from one of our suspension points, lol. It makes it easy to grab when you need it!:


We made sure the height of the massage table was right for the position I planned to put sol in: face up, legs apart and up, so that his ass was at the bottom edge of the table and easy for me to reach. We steadied the other end of the table with "porn" (old magazines). Sol then set up a pulley system with bondage rope for his cuffed ankles:


You want your partner squeaky clean for anal games so it was now time to fill the enema bag with warm water:


And for sol to lie on the table and take it:


I snapped on my Ikea red latex gloves and did Fiendish Nurse impressions as I introduced the nozzle:


It only took a few minutes to do. While sol waited for my permission to release the water we checked everything was ready on my play tray:


Let's take a moment to see what's on that tray and why:

• First lots of lube. If you've read my BDSM for Beginner's Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex you'll know the importance of THAT. You are unlikely to proceed very far without it, and he'll certainly never let you try again if you don't use it *grin*. I've got two types of lube, including KY, plus Vaseline and a local favorite Lucas' Pawpaw Ointment. It sounds weird but it's brilliant. It has the consistency of Vaseline but is even more effective. If you live in Oz I do recommend some in your play bag.

• Condoms. Absolutely needed. You just whip them off at the end and they take any mess with them.

• Latex gloves (both throw away and scarlet Ikea kitchen ones that I really like). These keep your hands clean and can either be thrown away at the end of a scene or washed.

• Small towels (you can see the rolled up blue one ... I think I used three during this scene ... the prepared harnesses are sitting on another blue one. There's also a really big towel on the massage table). Essential for cleaning up come, other mess etc.

• A plastic bag for rubbish. For used condoms, used tissues, latex gloves etc.

• Prepared harnesses with dildos. It's sol's task to clean the harnesses and dildos and cover the latter with condoms. This means they are ready for me to put on, and the scene isn't delayed while I muck around. The one you can see at the right of the photo above is Sax's Delux Vac U Lok leather harness with a jelly probe style dildo (for why I like the Vac U Lok system, plus lots more info on different types of harnesses, their pros and cons etc see my Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex post)
  

• A few toys. I have a small cane and CBT size flogger, plus Japanese clover clamps. I didn't use them this time but they were there "just in case". The blue curled up ratchet you can see at bottom left I did use....
  

• A clock (you can't see it but its there). It might be necessary to time some parts of your scene ... I'll explain more later.
  

All these things are on a tray. Why? So that I can move them closer at the start of the scene. Once you are inside your partner it's a tad tricky to trot off to get your play items, towels or whatever. So I move the whole tray to a stool on my right hand side.

What you can't see on the tray is the camera. That's round my neck on a piece of rope. I've learned that strap-on play can get messy and you really don't want to get lube and God knows what on the camera. So I put mine around my neck and either remove my latex gloves or clean my hands first with one of those small towels.

After torturing sol for a while ("how badly out of ten do you need to go now?") I finally allowed him to release the water. For best effect we then repeated the procedure. Then it was time to put him into position on the massage table, face up and attach his ankle cuffs to the ropes:


If you put your partner in a similar position you need to keep an eye on the time. Even though the weight is being taken by the ropes, having their legs in such a position can be stressful after about ten minutes. You also want to keep an eye on their circulation and their temperature. I allowed sol to keep on his T shirt and dressing gown because there was a bit of a breeze building up on the deck. I also had socks for his feet, if needed.

I had on black leggings and a black T shirt, and Sax's Delux Vac U Lok harness with a pink jelly anal probe, as I wanted to introduce a smaller dildo to sol before trying the larger cock I had ready in Sax's Diva harness. We were ready to go....

I did a few more Fiendish Nurse impressions, snapping on throwaway white latex gloves, and beginning to lube his asshole:


I relaxed him further with a small vibrator:


I then introduced the pink jelly anal probe:


Once it was in the first inch or so I stopped moving and allowed him to adapt to it. Then again I gently pushed further, stopping again at the half way mark ... and then the three quarter point. I kept an eye on the clock, allowing him time to relax before I began thrusting gently:


I always recommend using a smaller dildo like an anal probe the first time you fuck someone. It does make entry easier. But on the other hand the sharper point of it can cause problems if it hits internally at funny angles, so keep asking your partner how it feels and of course come out immediately if there is sharp pain.

Remember every time you re-enter: re-lube!!!

If your partner is noting discomfort rather than pain don't completely withdraw; back out a bit and see how they cope. You might find they are fine about you continuing after a bit of a rest. Play with their cock for a while. That usually works :).

This is what happened with sol and myself. I thrust gently for a while with the anal probe. He took the whole thing, which he didn't realize at the time, and had quite an intense fucking with it, but the point made things a bit sore. So I withdrew, quickly unsnapped the Vac U Lok harness and let it drop, then let his legs down and helped him to sit up. We retired inside to bed for a while...

About half an hour later we returned, this time with me wearing Sax's Diva harness with the larger dildo with balls:


This time I also attached the blue ratchet to an attachment point above sol on the massage bed (you can read more about the ratchet here) and attached the other end through sol's Prince Albert piercing:


We only did this for a brief time because the piercing is still healing, but it gave us an idea of how much fun the PA will be during play later:


Sol had not yet put the condom on the dildo, so I asked him to show me how well he remembered Midori's trick of putting a condom on with your teeth:


He did well, I was really impressed!

Keeping an eye on the clock and the weather (it was now turning cool) I returned to my red Ikea latex gloves and relubed sol's asshole thoroughly. I then reintroduced the (cleaned in the meantime) small vibrator for a while, then finger fucked him with one ... two ... three ... and finally four fingers. He opened his eyes during this and I gave him a very evil grin. I again lubed the larger dildo:


Then slowly introduced it:


I find half inserting a finger, then introducing the dildo along the finger, helps me get a feel for where I am (there is a lot more info on how to actually fuck using a strap-on in Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex ). I got up quite a good rhythm, thrusting wise. Most important, I was pleased that the dildo remained secure, despite the bottom strap being left undone because of the balls. So that's a good thing to be able to report in my ongoing strap-on harness reviews.

Sol and I had not been sure whether he'd be able to take the larger cock, but being a total tart he took the lot:


Very soon after he was asking permission to come. I very nearly said no. Because watching him come down from that plateau would have appealed to my sadistic side. But I decided he deserved a reward for providing me with so much fun, so I graciously agreed. The words were hardly out of my mouth when:


So there you go: a classic come shot! Ten minutes later we were snuggled up in bed. Weekends are so much fun...


REFERENCES AND ONLINE RESOURCES:

There is a great reference and online resources list at the end of Ms160's Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex post.

Want to check out the harnesses Ms160 mentions? Click on Sax's banner below:

(photos: Ms160 and Sax)