(photo: courtesy of Destiny + chance)"the most unusual competition we’ve come across so far in the adult blogging world"
(adultbloghub 7.05.07)
I've really appreciate everyone's kind words about the contest - thank you! The feedback has been tremendous.
I was amused - and flattered - by adultbloghub's quote above. Those of you who have known me for a while know I enjoy organizing all kinds of online kinky contests - quite a few are mentioned on this blog. Contests are a lot of work but can be tremendous fun. They are a great way to encourage shy kinksters into taking a more active role, to challenge those who need a challenge (which for me, is to come up with different formats that work well online), initiate dialogue, and meet new friends (this last one was especially successful at that!).
This particular contest was the first in a series to promote MyDungeonSpace's Forced Feminization Group, and provide some fun for group members, especially the many quiet ones without owners. That the contest unexpectedly caught the attention of several D/s couples greatly added to the fun.
Several of you have asked why I chose the Babydoll as the theme: it suited my own sense of whimsy, but also contained real potential for personal expression as well as a strong forced fem element. I decided that contestants were to be judged on two points: how sexy and stylish their choice of Babydoll outfit was, and how sexy and stylish they looked in it. But as always with my contests, it wasn't just a case of uploading a photo for judging. Oh no. In this case, the challenge was that contestants had to choose and purchase their babydoll outfits, submit three photographs of themselves in them, and discuss with (three Domme) judges in detail their selection, shopping and photographic experiences.
I was amused - and flattered - by adultbloghub's quote above. Those of you who have known me for a while know I enjoy organizing all kinds of online kinky contests - quite a few are mentioned on this blog. Contests are a lot of work but can be tremendous fun. They are a great way to encourage shy kinksters into taking a more active role, to challenge those who need a challenge (which for me, is to come up with different formats that work well online), initiate dialogue, and meet new friends (this last one was especially successful at that!).
This particular contest was the first in a series to promote MyDungeonSpace's Forced Feminization Group, and provide some fun for group members, especially the many quiet ones without owners. That the contest unexpectedly caught the attention of several D/s couples greatly added to the fun.
Several of you have asked why I chose the Babydoll as the theme: it suited my own sense of whimsy, but also contained real potential for personal expression as well as a strong forced fem element. I decided that contestants were to be judged on two points: how sexy and stylish their choice of Babydoll outfit was, and how sexy and stylish they looked in it. But as always with my contests, it wasn't just a case of uploading a photo for judging. Oh no. In this case, the challenge was that contestants had to choose and purchase their babydoll outfits, submit three photographs of themselves in them, and discuss with (three Domme) judges in detail their selection, shopping and photographic experiences.
Some wonderful journeys resulted. Winner quall wrote "what I loved [was] participating. I loved every single moment of choosing the outfits, making shopping, deciding on shots, taking photos, and posting them", while veritas' post revealed the considerable effort the best contestants went to: "i spent about 3 afternoons or so just snapping picture after picture. it was a bit difficult just because of having to focus the camera, set the timer, and get into position fast enough. it was a slow process, but i ended up with about 50 pics or so to choose from. i tried all sorts of different poses, props, and even did a little self bondage. but it turns out being tied up just made things too difficult to take any good pics". Judges really regretted not having a chance to view the latter!
Mont202 reported that his Mistress Jadetiger - confonted by having to photograph mont in his purple zentai suit and babydoll (see pix below) - "laughed at my outfit, lol", while Destiny wrote on her blog of encountering her pet chance in his exquisite new outfit: "what I did not expect, is that when I came out of the bathroom he was in the hallway waiting for me. He was breathtaking, standing at attention, so proud and beautiful. I could not help but be a little humbled that someone that strong and proud could be mine". Aradia documented taking her Whore's entry photos on her blog: "I braided his wig ... I love the way he is holding his head in these photos. Like he is totally at ease with the fact that I am embarrassing the hell out of him. In truth, he is. whore loves being humiliated. This red number always makes him look... well, in a word... simmering. Like Y/you are just waiting to touch him and feel the heat emanating from his skin...".
Wonderful journeys, indeed ... and that includes the judges - Miss Bonnie, Alice and myself - who enjoyed not only the deliberation but the behind the scenes dramas as well, lol ("well done with posting the results - fantastic prose and reflects the deliberation so well. Thank you for inviting me to judge, it really was the highlight of the week!").
On a more serious note, the contest took on a secondary agenda after recent negative blogging about forced feminization caused some subs to drop out of the contest. Struggling to understand why their desires were suddenly so despised by other kinksters, the idea of a public ff contest - in the light of the original blogger's directive to "keep your fucked up oppressive offensive obtuse ideas about female sexuality out of my fucking kink" - was too much. I hope they will rejoin us for the next contest in June, now the last one has shown to be such an affirming, positive experience for everyone who took part.
It's been an honour to have been the instigator and organizer of a kinky event that has brought so much enjoyment to my friends. I'd like to share with you one of the posts the contest has inspired.
Ironically I was directing subs to chance's post in response to anti forced fem, at the same time he was posting his thoughts on entering the contest, lol. "creep" was posted at it's conclusion, after chance was awarded the Special Artistic Prize for the stunning photos you can see below. I requested his and Destiny's permission to xpost "creep" here - in full - because it so perfectly captures the mood of this particular contest, and provides a glimpse into the highly personal experience participating in such a contest can provide.
"creep"
by chance
by chance
"A funny thing happened on the way to a contest. Mistress wrote about the contest yesterday and i have probably talked about babydolls way more than i ever imagined, but i woke up with a few things on my mind.
"i didn't/don't go out in public much, not really a group person. Even when i was young i went out, but alot of times i was on my own. Fetish events in particular. i would walk by and see groups of people, Doms and subs, and whatever inbetween and i was envious of their comaraderie. When i met Mistress she had lots of friends in the lifestyle so it was nice to be able to interact and be myself with like minded people, as they say. Still. Mistress and i are for the most part, homebodies. i like being at home best of all. i like being in my room, being in my space. Now Mistress shares that space with me and we both have alot of fun doing things there. i have always made my own fun and alot of that fun was S/M based.
"When i saw the contest i wrote about my desire to be in it, while being apprehensive about its motives. Mistress 160 (the organizer) wrote to me assuring me the contest would be fun and even though i wasn't into the "dressing to be humiliated" part i was more than welcome to enter and the judges would treat everyone with respect. Mistress and i discussed it, i wrote about it, and at the time the topic was hot so others were writing about it too, if not directly about the contest. In the end the participation of Miss Bonnie, whose blog we have followed for some time and our desire to enter a contest led us to decide to go for it.
"Mistress loves the idea of entering me in contests and i love to be on stage. We have even discussed going to an S/M camp in the summer just because they are going to have "Olympics" for the Subs. Would i love to be a pony in a show or race? Oh yeah Baby bring it on. Mistress and i entertain ourselves often, thinking of possible outfits, or special training moves i coud pull off to "Wow the crowd". i enter, the crowd goes wild, the deafening sound of 20,000 people cheering, Can you hear it Mistress, i'll say. and I'll push her too. "You have to be perfect, there can be no hesitation, i am your instrument and you must play well if we are to win" she's used to my constant nattering and resting the success on her shoulders. She knows when the time comes i will do my part and give the audience a show. One thing i've learned over the years is how to get myself in the zone, almost instantly. That lesson learned came through singing and recording more than D/s but the same mindset applies. Block them out, go into the zone, and reappear. Once mastered its easy.
"Mistress 160 invited us to join her group on "MyDungeonSpace.com" which we also had to join. Again we don't really belong to any groups. We used to lurk on some but lost interest when we started our blog. We found MydungeonSpace interesting right off the bat. We are both cautious. We have learned not to get too excited too fast about new things as they wear off easy for us. We're a tough audience, old potsmokers bore easily. or we find we don't really belong or share the same values. This place did seem like fun and we were welcomed by Mistress 160.
"There are lots of pictures and we checked out the competition and other areas. It was hard to join "The Forced Femme" group we were required to join for the contest. All the talk of how creepy these guys who dress in women's clothes are, made me apprehensive. the years have taught me there is much predjudice about this topic and as much as i am comfortable with who i am i remain cautious in how its revealed. i beleive in my heart i am a bit of both genders and the pull to express myself as soft and delicate is as strong as my desire for the hockey rink, and a warm body to crash up against the boards. i have always searched for pride in my femminine self. i was lucky i finally found it through Art College and that experience made me stand proud as a somewhat unique individual.
"But i'm a creep, i'm a weirdo, what the hell am i doing here."
(Thom Yorke, Radiohead)
(Thom Yorke, Radiohead)
"The pictures in the Forced Femme group were interesting. Some, like us were trying to look sexy and elegant, some were slutty tarts, and some what i would call Fetishists. the last catagory intrigues me the most. One guy [mont202 - seen to the left] had a purple spandex full coverage body suit with a purple baby doll over it. He was serving tea i think. Alot of people out there would think this about as sexy as a roadside, but maybe its not about being sexy. Maybe its just weird. i find weird very sexy. i can hear what i call the "new girls" screaming in protest about how creepy these guys and myself are."It made me think again how the reason i am here is because i am creepy, i am perverted and obsessed with strange sexual practices. i love to dress up any which way, and the more strange i look the more excited i get. i grew up this way. i can't change. When i was a kid i swore i would never dress up again every time i came. and then like an appetite, i would find myself with pantyhose on my head, tied up and forcing myself to do mundane tasks, like play darts. i am a teenager in a locked room, i had a dart board. i played games with myself. At the time the games were played in the dark, now i get to step out into the light. i am lucky because i have a beautiful Mistress to hold onto and she gives me the pride and strength to show myself.
Mistress calls me the creature for good reason and she has been the final piece of the puzzle that allows me to come out. The guy in the spandex body suit turns me on and i think about my hood. i think of my chains and the ridiculous ways i long to be tied up, put on a pedestal and told to entertain my Mistress and sometimes our friends. i'm a fuckin weirdo. i am also having the time of my life and i hope the guy in purple [you can see to the right] is too.The contest was flat out fun. Mistress and i took a ton of pictures. i got to go shopping for a new outfit. Mistress got to shop for me which she Loves. The other pictures were interesting and the judges and particularly Mistress 160 gave an excellent critique of the winners. You could feel the joy emanating from the other contestants as they described their shopping/picture taking experiences. Very positive feelings. A very positive experience. i get tired of all the negativity surrounding this life. The Do' and Don'ts, whats creepy, and whats sexy, and whats just plain disgusting. (disgusting isn't my word). i feel i am beginning to be too creepy for even SadoMasochism. How could that be. That is why i came here. i'm a creep, i'm a weirdo.
Mistress said a beautiful thing yesterday, i'm paraphrasing. She said if she sees that it makes me truly happy and excited she doesn't care what it is. To see the joy in someones face and body is the turn on for Her. The reaction as she does things to me, or them, when she was single. Mistress has lots of first time encounter stories where she rocked the guys world, and it was the guy being rocked that turned her on. The kind of creature he became. The act maybe just a catlyst."i felt all kinds of emotions during this contest and i embraced them and watched others go through similar feelings on the topic. No answers, no coming down on one side or the other. i won't proclaim it sexy as i won't proclaim it disgusting. It was bizarre and different and provocative. A rich experience. i couldn't ask for more".
Thank you, chance.
"creep" by chance
first published 5 May 2007
www.destinyandherpetchance.blogspot.com
Many thanks:
to chance and Destiny for both text and images
chance's artwork - which as a curator I
recommend - can be viewed here
(contest images of mont202: photographer Jadetiger. courtesy: mont202)
first published 5 May 2007
www.destinyandherpetchance.blogspot.com
Many thanks:
to chance and Destiny for both text and images
chance's artwork - which as a curator I
recommend - can be viewed here
(contest images of mont202: photographer Jadetiger. courtesy: mont202)
3 comments:
Thank You Mistress 160, i am honoured (and i admit flattered) to see my post here. Your comments and actions have been thoughtful, empathetic and inspiring.
i have said i am lucky to have a Mistress to give me courage. i think all the 'boys' without Mistresses, who may be shy, have a friend in you and i hope they take courage from your open mindedness and acceptance.
i don't like to tell anyone what to do but if i had any advice to give to others like me, its to celebrate your weird desires. Be proud of the strange things that make you unique. Be open and honest in your feelings. Show the fun you are having. Mistress and i have several Dominant Female friends (and a couple submissives too) and all of them respond to pride in one's kink.
i spent many years hiding in the shadows, even wishing i wasn't like this. It was when i decided i didn't care what others think and i resolved to be myself, i mean what else can you do, that i started to feel better.
Since then i have been very open in what i am.
i am truly amazed how most women have embraced me over the years.
Now with Mistress and our friends i am as creepy as i want to be, or Mistress wants me to be. They don't see it as creepy, they see it as fun, and sexy, and edgy. They see me.
i can't wait to serve tea to Mistress and Mistress Michelle again, i am going to ask if i can dress like (mont202?) the guy in purple. i only have black though. Serving dressed up, slightly bound and gagged. Thats not creepy that just exciting wrapped around mundane. What could be more fun.
Thank you Mistress 160 for the endorsement of my artwork, its always nice to get feedback.
Sorry for the long comment.
Sincerely,
Destiny's chance
No, thank YOU, chance - your words have reached and inspired many kinksters. It was an honour to xpost them.
My beloved solipsist was another who believed he would spend his life a lonely pervert, having to hide forever his 'weirdness'. I never cease to be thankful that our paths crossed, and hope he too understand that I see him as he truly is, and love him more each day for it.
I do hope next time I'm in your hometown, chance, I might receive an invitation to tea....
Well Thank you chance, you words are very kind, and your right its not creepy to me, its fun and exciting. We all have our kinks and quirks, but being around people that understand and promote them, is a wonderful thing and I feel lucky and or blessed that I have a Mistress that enjoys them as well. And I extend this to all those that may not have anyone that is as opened minded and that can share what we do. But you have us. Frankly if people don't like the way I dress, thats fine. But I do thank the people that don't judge so harshly and are open minded about it. Everyone is unique and different in this world, lets keep it that way and understand why and embrace it instead of critize. Thank you again for the wonderful comments chance. We are here to enjoy life, why not, better than being a stuffy ass bastard, lol.
mont202
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